From this Blogs page you can explore news items of interest and people’s different experiences integrating Synergy into their lives.
The Sacred Union: How Sex Awakens Consciousness (video)
In this 14-minute video Gene Hart discusses the link between sex without the goal of orgasm and heightened spiritual consciousness. If we would use sex for our joint reunion with the divine we must ultimately prioritise that union above the romance and hot sex we are wired to seek from each other.…
The chief gift of staying in love
Synergy Explorers will enjoy this short clip by Bruce Lipton, in which he discusses the power of the “honeymoon effect”. When in love, we tend to stay conscious instead of running on old subconscious patterns. The world looks brighter; we feel better; and life is worth living. Of course…
The Hidden Factor in Relationship Disharmony
Ever wonder why so many intimate relationships deteriorate with time? Is it possible that biology pulls our strings for its own ends (genetic success) at the cost of the most potentially nourishing relationships of our lives? What is the evidence for this?More importantly, if such unfortunate…
‘Optimal Sexuality’ study
Synergy Explorers visitors may enjoy learning more about a courageous study by Canadian sexologists called, “The components of optimal sexuality: A portrait of “great sex”. It was published in 2009 by P.J. Kleinplatz, A.D. Ménard, M-P Paquet, N. Paradis, M. Campbell, D. Zuccarino and L. Mehak. The…
Sexology mythology
Most Synergy Explorers are familiar with the suggestion that orgasm is not an unqualified, empowering boon. Rather, the Big O can fuel sexual satiety, dissatisfaction and even speed the transition to a novel partner. Alas, the mainstream press has been slow to catch on to the concept that…
We’re the demisexuals — you might be one too
Comment: Are people weary of casual sex and ready for a lovemaking approach like Synergy, in which bonding is the primary focus? This item appeared in The Times (UK). The singer Tulisa used the term to say she wants emotional connection before a physical relationship. I know how she feels, says…
Sex and Change
Sex could be one of the most powerful practices for reinforcing behavior.Sex could be seen as a ladder for ascending or descending, according to certain currents in contemporary psychology and neuroscience.Summary: What human beings experience, think, or feel during any sexual activity, they…
Do You Feel Sad or Sometimes Cry After Having Sex? It Can Be Postcoital Dysphoria
Sex may permeate our popular culture, but conversations about it are still associated with stigma and shame in Indian households. As a result, most individuals dealing with sexual health issues or trying to find information about sex often resort to unverified online sources or follow the…
Nikki Glaser read a book that convinced her to stop orgasming
In this entertaining interview, comedienne Nikki Glaser explains why she experimented with giving up orgasm. Glaser figured out that biology seeks to exhaust sexual desire between partners – not to increase lovers’ pleasure – but to encourage lovers to move on to new partners.
The key to heaven on earth
A young man shares his enthusiasm about Synergy-style lovemaking. Would the world in fact be a very different place if people mastered this practice? The narrator also weaves in mention of Aldous Huxley, whose book Island addresses the same concept. Huxley, too, viewed this approach as a key to…
Does orgasm have a hidden cycle?
You’re finished…but your brain has just begun. Orgasm feels great. If climax were the end of the story, lovers would project the good feelings generated in the bedroom onto one another—and effortlessly adore each other forever. Few do. One challenge is that orgasm—especially that…
The Ultimate Rebellion: Transforming Entropy into Awakening
How Thermodynamic Principles Can Explain Our Role in the Universe Entropy Definition: In simple terms: “everything falls”. It’s the universal tendency that generates movement through the dissipation of all tension caused by potential differences (deficits, voids,…
Synergy is an exchange of gifts
Synergy takes some getting used to. For one thing, the ideal mindset for the practice is quite different from the default mindset during conventional sex. Instead of grabbing for your favourite “goodies” in terms of sexual pleasure, you focus on giving nurturing affection to your partner in the way…
Sexual Alchemy & Death of Ego
Gene Hart shares his lecture on Sexual Alchemy. This talk focuses on love (and sex without orgasm) as a transformative force. Among other things, he discusses the need to use increased sexual energy for lofty ends, lest it simply inflate your ego and drive you toward the usual mammalian goals:…
Masturbation triggers a distressing mental health issue in 2/3 of men, experts discover – and half of women
Original article Two thirds of men experience ‘post-sex blues’ after a self-love session, a study suggests. While half of women also experience similar feelings post-masturbation, casual sex is the most common trigger for a curious psychological phenomenon known as postcoital…
La Pareja Sagrada y el Sexo Ritual
Auto-generated English subtitles are available for this intriguing video in Spanish. The imagery is beautiful. Did you know that multiple traditions point to the separation between the sexes as the root cause of spiritual blindness? Could Synergy lovemaking be a path to (re)creating deep feelings…
“The Bliss Codes” by Carolin Hauser
Synergy fans will be pleased to know that there’s another book out on the subject. Naturopath-trained therapist Carolin Hauser and her partner Tim have created a helpful, easy-to-read volume entitled The Bliss Codes. They’ve chosen the term “Bliss-Bonding” to describe the…
Synergy lovemaking humour
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Rewiring Your Sexual Response
Learn how deep belly breathing and slow subtle movements during sex can open up new pleasure in your sex lives. Karezza (Synergy-style lovemaking) can help you rewire your sexual response for greater fulfillment. This sexual practice eliminates performance. Instead, it emphasises relaxation,…
Advice for women trying Synergy
Not long ago, an interesting discussion took place on a forum that invites insights about a version of Synergy lovemaking known as ‘karezza’. A woman asked,Can anyone give detailed technical advice on how females can avoid orgasm during penetrative sex? All the advice online seems to be geared…
Bonding behaviour repertoire
So, you want to try Synergy? Passing up orgasm without substituting lots of affectionate nurturing (bonding behaviours) would be like deciding to lose 20 unwanted pounds by ceasing to eat. Just as you need to eat, you need the nourishment of love and affection – especially if you want to change the…
Why do we practice Karezza?
A couple explains why they practice sex without orgasm. They share their tips based on their personal experience.
“No orgasm? What’s the point?”
“Wouldn’t it be frustrating?” When people first learn of Synergy lovemaking, they commonly ask such questions. The short answer is, “No, Synergy needn’t be frustrating”. But first, a bit of context. In simplest terms, Synergy is affectionate, sensual activity without the goal of climax.…
Feel sad, anxious or ‘homesick’ after sex? You might have post-coital dysphoria (Guardian UK)
Research on PCD has determined that people of all genders and sexualities have had such feelings after sex and masturbation In 2009, a young woman went to the student clinic at Queensland University of Technology in Australia with a problem: after sex with her partner, she always felt sad.…
What no one is telling you about twin flames
This video offers some interesting food for thought. Its creator connects the Twin Flame dynamic with the phenomenon of Karezza, a form of Synergy love making. He suggests that both concepts will gain in importance in the years to come, possibly in combination. They will shape our future…
Synergy set to music
David and Anna-Marie Holmes perform one of classical ballet’s most most exacting and difficult dances: the pas-de deux adagio. The music is Albinoni’s “Adagio”. If Synergy lovemaking were set to musical ballet this is how it would look. Enjoy.
Will your woman be unsatisfied with Synergy?
A young man on a karezza (a type of Synergy lovemaking) forum posted:I am still in my 20s and from a young age I have been conditioned by porn. Many women in my generation are also conditioned by porn and Hollywood (50 Shades of Grey etc) and sadly even some aspects of feminism that demand…
Women: Are you demanding ejaculation?
Synergy lovemaking is an exercise in letting go of the meddlesome, biologically driven commands of our mammalian mating programme. Instead, lovers use selfless lovemaking to steer for deep feelings of defenceless union. This approach can give rise to greater harmony, increased wellbeing and…
Detecting spiritual hoaxes
Note: While not directly relevant to Synergy lovemaking, this post is a useful reminder that not all inspiring words are genuine. It’s also hilarious.Can you recognise the most commonly used formula for spiritual misinformation texts, so you don’t fall for it anymore? Here is the…
Women’s post-orgasmic hangover
Evolution’s perennial hunger for genetic diversity gives rise to much heartache (unless we master an approach to sex that protects the harmony in our relationships). It also generates a lot of pointed humour. Perhaps the following guide for men, supplied by an unknown internet wag, best…
No partner yet? Fatigued?
Scientists almost never study the potential benefits of less orgasm. However, a German-Danish team happened to investigate what occurred when single male porn users abstained from porn and masturbation for 3 weeks. Some of these singles also didn’t happen to have sex during that time. The paper is…
Recalibrating Synergy Practice
It is very easy to think you are doing fine as a Synergy couple when there are no conventional orgasms happening during lovemaking. Yet if dream orgasms appear anyway, causing the usual wide fluctuations in mood and behaviour, something is going on. What? We had a lot of turbulence at home due to a…
Misplaced genital worship?
Yoni pujas? Penis worship? By all means accept and respect your genitals and those of your partner. However, think twice before you worship physical genitals as a means of tapping into the dynamic forces that comprise the eternal, vibrant androgyny of creation. These underlying forces go by such…
Stop chasing orgasms
[Every now and then the mainstream media addresses karezza (a form of Synergy lovemaking). Don’t miss the viewers’ poll reproduced below, in which more than two thirds of readers plan to give it a try! Learn more about Synergy lovemaking.]By Alice Giddings Published Feb 1, 2024…
What to seek in a Synergy lover
No one can draw from a well if the bucket has holes. ~ I Ching, Hexagram 48So, you want to try Synergy and you don’t yet have a lover. Or maybe you have serious doubts about the merits of Synergy, but you’re a natural scientist, and you like the sound of enhanced creativity, increased harmony…
Evolutionary myopia
I have been poring over tantric and Hindu texts for decades. In my view, key texts and key philosophical points in Dharmic philosophy point to the prime importance of non-orgasmic sex as a spiritual practice. Therefore, it’s a source of recurring frustration to me when Western scholars insist on…
Fiction writer takes on Synergy lovemaking
Here’s a review by Nick Brothermore, author of The Gentleman’s Guide to Karezza Sex:
Is mating sufficiently broken to warrant a new approach to sex?
The New York Times published a Guest Essay entitled, “Why Aren’t More People Marrying? Ask Women What Dating Is Like.“ It doesn’t take a particularly keen observer to spot profound deterioration in the mating world. Many who grew up with the traditional goals of marriage and…
Exploring Synergy with a new lover
Have you ever tried to explain Synergy lovemaking to someone who has never experimented with it? Perhaps you begin by stating that it’s a very different approach to sex because orgasm is not the goal. For purposes of this post, let’s say your starting point has not caused your curious friend to run…
Reich’s Wrong Turn
Recently, an acquaintance became mystified by the peculiar, but surprisingly common, claim that men who seek to reduce their porn use by joining online self-help recovery forums are “fascists, misogynists and white supremacists”. How did such an offbeat concept gain traction? It can be traced to a…
Coping with the Kali Yuga
Tibetan legend has it that only sex without climax (tantra, Synergy, etc.) will allow people to cope effectively with mankind’s escalating spiritual deterioration. Curious? Keep reading. In Hinduism, Kali Yuga is the fourth and present age of the world cycle of yugas, or “ages”, and is…
Reinventing desire’s endgame
Desire is critically important for living a good life, both at a basic level and in society. Desire fuels the achievement of the highest goals of human fulfillment. I’m not just talking about sexual desire here, but any volition, motivation, direction, wish, etc. The “movement…
Lloyd’s Soul-Blending Embrace
Physician J. William Lloyd’s The Karezza Method by is a gem: short, eloquent, practical, and charmingly quaint (published in 1931). He eloquently advocates for karezza (a variation of Synergy lovemaking). Here’s a complete, but consolidated (and searchable) PDF of the book, and here’s a scan of the…
If Your Mood Dips After Sex, Post-Coital Dysphoria Could Be The Reason
Original item by Brynna Standen for HealthDigest[Occasionally the mainstream acknowledges that the hormonal alterations that follow orgasm can set off unwanted mood changes. Here’s HealthDigest’s write-up about post-coital dysphoria. Perhaps one day researchers will investigate the…
The key humanity has ignored
Humanity has thus far rejected the key that is capable of unlocking the most important doors of life. This key calls for harnessing both consciousness and desire, or Shiva and Shakti in the language of the traditional Tantras. Instead of employing this key, humanity typically remains blind to it.…
Yin’s deeper mystery
To unite with the immeasurable heart and all-knowing mind of the Mysterious Mother, you must integrate yin and yang within and refine their fire upward. This is what is known as true evolution. ~ Lao TzuIf you are a yin lover, you form an essential element of the mystery Lao Tzu describes…
Is Synergy misogynistic?
Critics of controlled intercourse (during which men don’t ejaculate) sometimes lump the practice in with solo semen-retention. Such practices are touted by both rational people and extremists. Critics then spread the absurd talking point that “semen retention is macho and misogynistic”. This is…
How would Chinese sexperts view Watts, Freud and Reich?
In his Art of the Bedchamber, a scholarly anthology of ancient Chinese sexology texts, Professor Douglas Wile compared classical Chinese views about sex with the views of three well known Western sex commentators of the last century. Synergy fans may find these comparisons of interest. Watts Let’s…
Neo-Tantra: pros and cons
Advantages and Pitfalls of Neo-Tantra (falsely called Tantra or Tantrism) Neo-Tantra is a child of the New Age. The “anti-establishment” counterculture movement of the 1960s birthed it. Some categorise “New Age” as a reaction of the people (populism) against religious institutions that…
Ibn ‘Arabi, sex, and the divine
Mystic, philosopher, poet and sage Muhammad bin Ali Ibn al-‘Arabi or Ibn ‘Arabi (1165-1240) is one of the world’s great spiritual teachers. He grew up in the Moorish culture of Andalusia in Spain, the centre of a remarkable cross-fertilisation of Jewish, Christian and Islamic thought.…
Yin Magnetism
The famous yin-yang icon symbolises the living current of creation perpetually circulating between two poles. As R.L. Wing put it in the I Ching Workbook:Together, yin and yang represent the dynamic interaction that creates all of reality. The ancient Chinese say about this: “From the Creative…
Why Contain Male Sexual Energy?
Koen Blom describes the phases he goes through when he contains his sexual energy. Among other changes he becomes more authentic and sees women as human beings. This permits him to evaluate women’s characters more wisely. He also becomes more comfortable in his skin and begins to feel a…
The Foundation of Conjugal Harmony
Professor Douglas Wile’s Art of the Bedchamber (State University of New York Press) provides a fascinating look at a sex-positive culture’s classic treatises on sex. The authors of these works would have seen the wisdom of Synergy lovemaking. Ten precepts of Chinese sexology Wile’s rich anthology…
Drs Huberman and Malik discuss the neurochemistry of sexual satiety
In this short video, Stanford neuroscience professor Andrew Huberman and urologist Rena Malik discuss why the brain is the “most important sexual organ.” Sexual arousal, sexual satiety and habituation are all reflections of neurochemical events. Orgasm triggers satiety and habituation,…
A Jewish tradition of controlled intercourse?
Much of Judaism seems to revolve around the Genesis 1’s command to “go forth and multiply”. For this reason it’s difficult to imagine that Judaism once encompassed a tradition of controlled intercourse for spiritual ends. And yet, according to some, Judaism had its own esoteric tradition, which…
How to be a sexy senior
I don’t know about you, but in my head I’m about 21, despite the evidence in the mirror. I think it’s common to continue to see the world in many ways through the eyes of our younger selves. That includes feeling attracted to people and perhaps wanting to have some kind of relationship with them.…
Sex and Depression: In the Brain, if Not the Mind
Comment: A psychiatrist acknowledges that intense orgasm can create a hangover for some people without any apparent psychological issues. Maybe as professionals begin to explore the neurochemistry of extreme cases they will realise that the same neurochemical fluctuations are at work in more subtle…
“Karezza” and the Sexual Reform Movement (Heinz Schott)
In 2015 Heinz Schott, Professor Emeritus of the University of Bonn in Germany, published a short academic paper. It appeared in a journal entitled Cultural and Religious Studies (July-Aug. 2015, Vol. 3, No. 4, 211-216 doi: 10.17265/2328-2177/2015.04.004) under its full title “Mesmerism,…
The Cult of the Natural
The Cult of the NaturalThe catch phrase “go with the flow” seems to be on everyone’s lips. Often it often passes unexamined as an insightful guideline. But following “nature” is hardly a revolutionary philosophy. It’s the spontaneous tendency towards entropy, which the universe automatically…
The magic of contentment (not satiety)
You know that flirty tension between you and your beloved? It makes your time together fun, burdens and stressors less burdensome and stressful, and eye contact with your lover a delight – whether you’re toting groceries or washing the dog. Alas, you probably take that flirtiness for granted. You…
Shiva, Shakti and human potential
Anyone familiar with tantric sex has heard that, ideally, it calls for a dance between Shiva and Shakti. Some think of this as a synergistic exchange between lovers. In fact, the advanced Tantras reveal that these forces are not “male” and “female”, but rather energy impulses underlying all of…
Did Krishnamurti hint at Synergy?
If you are a Jiddu Krishnamurti enthusiast, you already know that he was one of the most insightful, inspiring teachers of his day. Hailed as the new World Teacher by Theosophists, in 1929 he publicly renounced this honour at the age of 34. Instead he urged his listeners in no uncertain terms to…
Tantric sacred sexuality
Tantric sacred sexuality is a millennia-old practice that aims to transcend the purely physical aspect of sexual intercourse. The goal is to make it a means of spiritual communion achieved with one’s partner. Unlike conventional sexuality, tantric sexuality does not focus on orgasm or…
Online sacred sex conference (Nov. 2023)
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Multi-orgasmic or Synergy lovemaking?
Seems like an easy choice, right? But remember biology is sneaky. Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy by Mantak Chia (and Michael Winn) was an inspiring first introduction to the wisdom of making love without striving for orgasm. In it, Chia, a neo-Taoist master, taught men…
Open-relationship disillusionment
Clinical Psychologist Dr. Oren Amitay and Registered Psychotherapist Malini Ondrovcik discuss open relationships in this half-hour podcast. Fantasies about threesomes and sexual novelty are generally not solid preparation for the realities of an open relationship. However much your mammalian…
Ancient tests of sexual self-control
There are curious parallels between the European Assag practice of the Middle Ages and the Hindu Asidhārāvrata practice. Why were these tests of sexual self-control so similar? Asidhārāvrata In this ancient “sword’s edge” ritual the male subjects himself to sexual temptation without fully…
Were we better off believing in the devil?
Chances are, you’ve long since ceased to believe in a malicious entity who battles for your soul. But the alternative is to take full responsibility for your lousy choices and their repercussions. Ouch! Feelings of shame can be toxic and debilitating. It can also mean investing a lot of time and…
Sustaining Arousal
Instruction manuals and articles today consistently advocate that women should go after one or two peak orgasms, however they can coax them…and be content. This is just bad advice. And then there are the guys seeking to boost their own egos by making a woman explode over and over. This is an…
What’s the ideal amount of sex?
Multiple studies report that sex about once a week is good for relationship satisfaction, but there can be such a thing as too much. See Sexual Frequency Predicts Greater Well-Being, But More is Not Always Better, in which researchers write:Is it true that engaging in more frequent sex is…
Affectionate transformation
In this post I discuss two important ways I help a partner make the switch to non-goal driven lovemaking. Be explicit Face it. Especially in new relationships, none of us like to dictate to others or risk being interpreted as implying that their lovemaking skills could be improved. And all of us…
Post-coital dysphoria could be why you feel sad after good sex
[Original post from METRO] Having great, mind-blowing sex is an amazing thing but sometimes, no matter how much they rocked your world, in the aftermath you can feel a bit, sad. You can be lying next to that person that you love, respect and trust, but that doesn’t mean you’ll necessarily be on a…
GQ surveys today’s relationship chaos
SynergyExplorers.org focuses on relationship harmony between partners. Therefore, current surveys that reveal the growing alienation between lovers hold a lot of interest. Perhaps if lovers are sufficiently dissatisfied, they’ll experiment with another approach to sexual intimacy. This…
The awakening wand
Sometimes I like to think of Synergy/karezza sex as a form of “making out”, a playful, enlivening and innocent way to bond. I remember back in high school. I liked dating girls, but what I was really hoping for was a chance to “make out”. Since I didn’t want to use condoms and didn’t want to get…
Primal Conscious Living, Loving & Dying (book review)
Book review of Primal Conscious Living, Loving & Dying: The Path of Divine Love, Intimacy, and Sacred Relationship by Leo K. JohnsonThis is the story of an extraordinarily mystical man’s journey to find himself, love, and spiritual healing and empowerment. At 161 pages, it’s more…
The way of the sun
Is the sun a metaphor for sacred sex practices? In "The Creation" (Die Schöpfung), composer Joseph Haydn portrays the following statement musically: "In brightest splendor now rises the sun". Listen, as the sun proceeds from a tiny, timid ray of light to glorious effulgence in a single moment. The…
Alice B. Stockham MD – Karezza’s creator (Part 3)
This post is part 3 of a three-part series about Alice B. Stockham MD (Part 1 and Part 2). This part addresses the spiritual aspects of the practice. Stockham makes it clear that, “conservation is not so much the result of retained secretions as the transmutation and transformation of vital…
Tantra: Impulse or discipline?
The term “tantra” encompasses a jumble of conflicting advice. Some tantra lore unequivocally discourages orgasm to enhance spiritual awareness. On the other hand, some of it encourages employing orgasm as sex magic, or using some tantric principles to have more intense orgasms. Whom should you…
Afternoon Delight
There is something exquisitely naughty about have some rumpy pumpy in the afternoon. It reminds me when, as a teenager, I’d occasionally bunk off of school towards the end of the day to go into town with a friend for a lark about. There’s nothing quite like some afternoon delight to warm up…
The gift of fin’amor
Suppose you are thinking of attempting Synergy with a new partner. You’re obsessing about when you will next see each other and you’re having unaccustomed trouble sleeping. In short, your honeymoon neurochemistry is at a fever pitch. You know that if you engage in passionate kissing, let alone…
What does Bing AI know about non-orgasmic sex practices?
Astonishingly, Bing AI did a creditable, if incomplete, job of executing the command: “List all the spiritual schools that taught non-orgasmic sex”. Karezza made the list, with some errors. Noyes didn’t invent the term and only male orgasm was discouraged at his Oneida community,…
A young woman describes her karezza practice
In this video entitled, "Sex Love without Orgasm" a young wife discusses her experience of karezza (Synergy-style lovemaking). What is it like to make love without finishing with orgasm? What are the benefits? By the way, pronounce "karezza" "ka-RET-za" like pizza!
The spark of life
We often hear about the importance of honouring the divine feminine in sacred sex. But what about the beautiful male energy that expresses the divine masculine? For me, such male energy has always felt like sunshine. When in its presence I experience a subtle buzz of wellbeing, serenity and…
Observations on polyamory
Polyamory is a very complex subject. Depending upon how we see ourselves, quite different outcomes follow. I believe polyamory is neither good nor bad. It's just what some desire when they're not completely in love with one person. We can learn great lessons from both the poly and mono approaches…
Alice B. Stockham MD – Karezza’s creator (Part 2)
This post is part 2 of a three-part series about Alice B. Stockham MD (Part 1). This part educates lovers on the practice. Stockham admits that for novice Karezza explorers, the practice will sound impossible. As a doctor, she patiently explains that the flow of semen is not essential to life or…
“Enlightened Sex” – Free audio course
Check out this free audio course about karezza (a variation of Synergy-style sex). It’s a great way to introduce a lover to the concept. If you’re solo for now, use the audio course to educate yourself for the future. And visit this page while you wait. The “Enlightened sex” course…
How To Recharge Your Romantic Life With Karezza
Dead bedroom? Drifting apart? Need a recharge? This 36-year old coach breaks down the challenges to monogamy in order to encourage his listeners to experiment with karezza sex. He points out that too much casual sex causes lovers to get bored of new relationships faster and faster. Coolidge…
Why karezza (Synergy) makes sense to me
[This post comes from the “Healing with Sexual Relationships” discussion forum on Reddit.] I’ve always felt really upset with the way people treat one another. I’ve found that love, at the core of existence, wasn’t really treated properly either. It’s as if the…
Women Have the Power to Change the World Through Sacred Sexuality
Fans of Samael Aun Weor will enjoy this Glorian video about women's role in the shift toward sacred sexuality. Can a woman's determination to cultivate and rechannel her own sexual energy make a difference in her ability to help her partner change course? Make your own experiment.…
Alice B. Stockham MD – Karezza’s creator (Part 1)
At the dawn of the twentieth century, Alice Bunker Stockham, MD published a remarkable little book called Karezza: Ethics of Marriage. In delicate, Victorian language she recounts the benefits of sex without orgasm. These include better health, and greater harmony and spiritual attainment. In her…
Bonding behaviours in action
A husband describes the affectionate activities he and his wife engage in daily. Do these behaviours keep them in love? Or do they engage in them because they love each other? More on the power of bonding behaviours.
Why Do I Feel Sad After Sex?
Postcoital Dysphoria May Be To Blame [Original post from Scary Mommy] Sex can bring up a lot of emotions. Some of them are good feelings, like the postcoital bliss of peace, connection, and satisfaction. But some of them are not-so-good feelings, like anxiety, irritability, and sadness. Even if…
Sexual Alchemy podcast
Listen to a lively exchange about Synergy-style lovemaking between Sexual Alchemy podcast host Libby Hudson Lydecker and counselor/naturopath Carolin Hauser. Both women agree that hidden spiritual potential lies in sexual union. And that humanity would benefit from learning to tap it. The host puts…
Is four times a week normal? (EL PAÍS)
The exhausted Ben Affleck meme and the debate over how much sex is too much: Is four times a week normal?
Multiple studies…
A Poem for Synergy lovers
This poem appeared on the subreddit called “r/karezza“. Its female author practiced Synergy-style lovemaking with her husband for years. Divine Breath of Oneness Breathe in – with open heart Breathe out – into empty mind Breathe in – bearing the discomfort of chaos Breathe out – into…
The Way of Harmonizing Yin and Yang
SynergyExplorers.org curates a treasure trove of ancient and modern texts about sacred sexuality and enhancing the harmony between intimate partners. We’ve decided to feature some of our favorites in blog posts. You can find many more under Traditions in our menu. This text comes from a book…
Has ‘sex positivity’ fulfilled its promise?
Have you, perhaps unwittingly, subscribed to the sex positivity meme that better sex means more variety and therefore less commitment? This is today’s sexual-health message, directly and indirectly. Anything less than “unrestricted sociosexuality” appears to be constipated sexuality according to…
Stillpoint lovemaking
The video clip below comes from a podcast featuring Australian couple Steve Hayter and Ester Zazzaro. In the clip Steve shares his most important tip for lovers who want to experience the transformative power of stillpoint lovemaking. The stillpoint practice calls for lovers to slow down, even to…
Hormones and postcoital dysphoria (EL PAÍS)
Comments: A sensible article that addresses the physiological underpinnings of this not uncommon phenomenon. Hopefully, researchers will eventually investigate the milder, more subtle and lingering post-O effects (irritability, resentment, depression, fatigue…), and the disharmony they…
Sex is going out of fashion
[Another reason to master Synergy? Is too much stimulation driving us apart? ] [Original post by Loudt Darrow on “Well, Technically”] With every fetish having a dedicated subreddit and every vagina a Gwyneth Paltrow candle scent, it’s hard to believe lust isn’t the most…
Finding Love Is an Inside Job
The fact is, most of us have not been taught as children how to connect with each other or with the Living Current of Life. Thus, we live lives seeking for “something” outside ourselves to fill emptiness within. But there is nothing outside that can teach us how to fill it. The fundamental skills…
What’s so important about sex?
Gentle, loving intercourse without the goal of orgasm produces a comforting neuroendocrine “cocktail”. It differs profoundly from the fiery neurochemicals of passion-driven sexual arousal. For example, a gentler, heart-centred approach to sex appears to release soothing levels of the “bonding…
The Way to Practise Semen Retention & Still Have Sex
Are you experimenting with semen retention, but also seeking the many benefits of partnered sex? Seb Jones (Masculine Wisdom, Self-Mastery and Awakening) explains how karezza (Synergy-style sex) meets sexual needs without energy loss. Comments from the comment section under the…
KasumiKriss and Huynrich discuss bonding, trust and sex
YouTubers Kristel and Rich exchange nsights on how to build and maintain trust between partners. They also address the unsuspected costs of pursuing short-term pleasure given the neurochemical impact of climax.
Men, want to help your lover nurture you better?
Men often justifiably complain about confusing, shifting gender roles. Their partners now find themselves in an equally confusing shift. Sexual passivity, or “lie back and think of England”, clearly produced resentment. After all, women are not mere objects for men’s use. No wonder recent…
Karezza prioritises emotional intimacy over orgasm (VOGUE India)
At a time when the idea of consent and bodily autonomy is endlessly challenged, Karezza widens our jaded understanding of what truly constitutes ‘good’ sex“If you don’t orgasm, it’s not sex.”“You guys didn’t cum?”“But what happened after the kissing and cuddling?”These are some of the…
What about female partners?
Sometimes people wonder whether Synergy benefits same-sex partners. This thread by same-sex female partners was spotted on r/karezza:My partner and I are both female, our understanding of karezza is similar to edging, where we intentionally push each other to a highly aroused state but not to the…
What’s the ideal amount of movement during Synergy-style sex?
Experienced practitioner of sexual alchemy (a Synergy-style lovemaking practice) discusses the basics in this brief clip. Watch the full interview with Gene Hart. You may also enjoy his video entitled “How to Practice Sexual Alchemy / White Tantra / Karmamudra / Karezza Explained“.…
What is karezza sex? Orgasm-free method releases love hormone to deepen couple’s bond (Daily Star UK)
Contrary to popular belief, orgasms are not a measure of successful sex. There’s an orgasm-free form of sex that’s just as pleasurable and sensual. Here’s what you need to know about the karezza methodMany of us believe that orgasming is the best measure of good sex. But the…
Catholic hierarchy meets Synergy
Visitors who have spent time on this website, know that Synergy Explorers features traditional materials from cultures and religions around the world that promoted or hinted at Synergy-style lovemaking. One of the most intriguing examples of a modern Synergy movement arose among French and…
Sexual relationships, empathy and porn
Early in 2022, a brilliant team of researchers from Israel and the USA reported that men with problematic porn use tend toward reduced empathy. (“Alterations in oxytocin and vasopressin in men with problematic pornography use: The role of empathy”) In addition, these guys suffer from increased…
How can Synergy-style sex help recovering porn users with partners?
Are you trying to eliminate online erotica? Quitting and recovering while in a relationship can be surprisingly challenging. Gabe Deem discusses the pros and cons of partnered recovery. He shares that those in relationships may get more traction early in their recoveries using a Synergy-style…
Why a handbook to explain Reserved Union to men?
For 20 years my wife and I have experimented with Reserved Union. I read many books on the subject of sex without the goal of conventional orgasm. Unfortunately, I never found any clear explanation of precisely how men who wish to postpone ejaculation indefinitely may do so. Eventually I mastered…
The heart of chivalry
“She makes me a better man,” explained a young geologist. His parent had asked why he hadn’t broken off his relationship after a quarrel with his girlfriend (and future wife). Did the same desire to become the best version of oneself lie at the heart of the chivalry tradition? For those with high…
Here’s why karezza sex is going mainstream
According to HER magazine, “Karezza sex is nothing new – here’s why it’s going mainstream”:The goal is not orgasm, but rather closeness and connection with your partner. In the past few years, column inches of publications around the world have been dedicated to…
How to Practice Sexual Alchemy / White Tantra / Karmamudra / Karezza
This hour-long video eloquently explains the logic behind the practise that we call “Synergy”. Weaving together insights from multiple observers and traditions the video’s creator clarifies some important distinctions. For example, he explains why partnered sex is more powerful…
“Seek for the sword that was broken”
Lord of the Rings fans may remember the above line from a prophetic poem that inspired the remaking of Narsil, a sword shattered in the depths of time. Reforged as Andúril, “Flame of the West”, the sword helped deliver Middle Earth. Where are the lovers who would explore Synergy-style…
Single, lonely, seeking connection?
Being alone isn’t the same as being lonely. Maybe you genuinely enjoy solitude. You’re not antisocial, friendless, or loveless – just content with alone time. In fact, you look forward to it. This is “being alone” not “being lonely.” On the other hand, maybe you are surrounded by family and…
Heavenly temptation
The late novelist George Moore often portrayed clerical themes in Irish life – generally with a good deal of irony. In A Story-Teller’s Holiday, he entertains his readers with a medieval folktale about temptation in a lively nunnery. A very determined Mother Abbess, with a supporting cast of…
Taoist technique for managing sexual energy with a partner or solo
Are you struggling with demanding sexual urges? For thousands of years the Chinese Taoists have taught techniques for circulating sexual energy. Practitioners often master them as a solo practice. That way they become automatic when making love with a partner, where they are especially powerful.…
Why are sexual frequency and desire dropping?
Is it possible that we’re going about sex the wrong way? Finland was once the most sexually active country in the West. Yet sexual frequency and female sexual desire have dropped markedly, while the rate of women who have never orgasmed from intercourse has almost doubled. At the same time,…
The West’s debt to the Chinese
In Wild Swans: Three Daughters of China, Jung Chang recounts that her widowed grandmother married an older widowed Manchu doctor. “He subscribed to a theory that a man over the age of sixty-five should not ejaculate, so as to conserve his sperm, which was considered the essence of a man.” According…
Stay with bonding behaviours and everything will be great
There is a saying my late wife used to repeat: “What you don’t learn from wisdom, you will surely learn from woe”. She’s been gone for nearly three years, and I have dated some lovely ladies a few times since then – even shared Karezza bonding intimacy with a few as well. Yet I am here to…
Do you know Karezza, the secret practice to spice up your intimate life?
Karezza is a sexual practice that makes the pleasure last by delaying orgasm. Lovers can strengthen their mutual trust through simple gestures.A method which is radically opposed to the frantic race for an orgasm, Karezza allows partners to prolong the pleasure of the sexual act while entering…
Three Steps to Heaven
3 Steps to Heaven Do you remember the song: “3 Steps to Heaven” by Eddie Cochrane? It goes, “Step one: find a girl to love. Step two: she falls in love with you. Step three: you kiss and hold her tightly. Now that sure… seems like heaven… to me.” Well, if only it were that simple. Just around 20%…
NoFap Gamechanger Most Are Clueless About (Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow)
GoldJacketLuke shares the NoFap gamechanger insights he got from a book about the Synergy practice known as ‘karezza’.
Karezza & Catholicism
I’ve recently been learning about how the Catholic Church has historically suppressed Karezza, viewing it as incompatible with their teachings about the procreative end of sex. I was a whole-heartedly devoted Catholic until fairly recently and, when Catholic, was particularly interested in…
Straight People Need Better Rules for Sex
By Christine Emba Ms. Emba is an opinion columnist at The Washington Post and the author of “Rethinking Sex: A Provocation,” from which this essay is adapted. If you talk to young people about sex, you may sense an unsettling malaise. Nearly half of American adults — and a majority of women — say…
The conundrum of sexual appetite
When they could control themselves, they would not, and When they would control themselves, they could not.This old couplet may have relevance for all appetites. But it seems especially pertinent in the case of sexual appetite because of its supremacy. As Richard Dawkins wrote, genes are…
What is sacred sex?
No doubt everyone who uses the term sacred sex has their own definition. Mine is straightforward:Ongoing sexual exchange for the purpose of enhancing the spiritual clarity of both partnersSimply put, it’s a mutual spiritual practice in the context of a sexually intimate relationship. What…
Stefan and Tatiana James share their relationship tips
Don’t be afraid to try something new – even if it’s experimenting with orgasmless sex!Stefan and Tatiana share some of their best relationship advice on what works for them after being together for seven years.
Break the “Passion Cycle”
“Dudes Ascend” host discusses the passion cycle he sometimes observes in himself, his wife and their friends. Think of it as a kind of hangover after the high of orgasm. It can linger for as long as two weeks in some, increasing irritation, anxiety, frustration, moodiness, fear and…
Cosmo teaches tantra
On 24 February 2022, Cosmopolitan magazine taught its readers “Everything You Need to Know if You’re Curious About Tantric Sex”. Attentive Cosmo readers have probably noted that in in every sex and relationship article, Cosmo's editors inevitably imply that orgasms are de rigueur – with or without…
What did lovers say about Synergy-style lovemaking in 1950?
Multiple husbands and wives experimented with sex without orgasm in northern France and southern Belgium in the middle of the last century. For more on this intriguing chapter of sexual experimentation see “The Chanson Affair“. Unfortunately an outraged Pope put an end to the…
And just like that, nobody’s having sex any more – but why?
By Arwa MahdawiWhile there are a bunch of factors at play, from social media to a decrease in alcohol use, one hypothesis can be worrying(Not much) sex in the cityAnd just like that, nobody’s having sex any more. Middle-aged people aren’t having much. Young people aren’t having much.…
10 Cuddling Positions That Are Cozy AF
Why does cuddling feel so good? It’s science, baby: specifically, brain chemistry. When you hug or snuggle with a partner, your pituitary gland releases a chemical called oxytocin, which has been shown to reduce stress and promote bonding in relationships. (There’s a reason oxytocin has been…
How important was karezza in your porn recovery?
Gabe Deem explains how karezza can help porn users in recovery with partners to re-wire their sexual arousal pattern.Karezza shifts the focus away from getting to climax. Lovers to slow way down and tap into the sensual side of sex. For more ideas from Gabe, try his site at Reboot Nation or here.
Vajrayana practitioner discusses the tradition as a gay man
In this lengthy talk, Dr. Ben Joffe dives into the theory, practice and scholarship of coitus reservatus as a Tantric religious discipline. Dr. Joffe translated a book on coitus reservatus by Tibetan Buddhist master Nida Chenagtsang. Its title is Karmamudra: The Yoga of Bliss: Sexuality in Tibetan…
What if my family had known about Chanson’s “Reserved Embrace”?
At the end of 1949, Paul Chanson published a book called The Art of Loving and Marital Continence. He was a well-known French Catholic intellectual. The book sang the praises of “the reserved embrace” (Synergy). It sent shock waves throughout the French Catholic world of France and Belgium. The…
Viagra and the case for soft sex
In the 1980s, drug company propaganda convinced the scientific world that nitric oxide was no longer a toxic pollutant, but rather a health-promoting substance to launch their new erection drug Viagra. ~Mark Sloan in The Ultimate Guide to Methylene BlueVisitors to SynergyExplorers.org…
Want to erase a recurring sexual fantasy?
When you feel sexually aroused or sexually frustrated does your mind too often jump to a habitual fantasy or fetish to push you over the edge to climax?You are not alone. This kind of neural link is extremely common. Even if you would never want to act out a fantasy in real life it can be…
Women on r/FemaleDatingStrategy discuss the benefits of not pursuing orgasm
A November, 2021 thread on Reddit begins with this discussion on feelings:Start having sex where the man doesn’t orgasm Buckle up with me, ladies. I’ve disabled my DMs for this one. 😂 Women should start having sex wherein the man doesn’t orgasm for at least about 85%-90% of the encounters. My…
Sexual Transmutation In Spirituality & How To Do It
Learn exercises for sexual transmutation of your sexual energy in this hour-long video. Skip to minute 51:00 for information specific to couples and self-control during intercourse. This video focuses on wisdom from multiple traditions for harnessing sexual energy for creative manifestation,…
Isn’t Synergy “unnatural”?
People sometimes declare Synergy “unnatural” because animals always ejaculate when they copulate…or do they? In fact, various primates don’t always ejaculate when they copulate.Moreover, this behaviour is more common than imagined. Male macaque monkeys, for example, ejaculate in roughly…
STOP BLOWING YOUR LOAD (Best Semen Retention Practices)
STOP BLOWING YOUR LOAD (Best Semen Retention Practices) In this short video Elliot Hulse (“Become a King”) shares his tips for maintaining sexual control during intercourse. He discusses ejaculation control.
That post-coital feeling: we investigate the way women feel right after they’ve had sex (Stylist)
Excerpt: “There is what’s called ‘a drop’ after the chemical high of a sexual encounter.” For more on the science of post-coital distress in men and women explore Evidence of shifts after sex.Women tell to us about how they feel after sex, and we explore research to help us make…
Feeling stuck? Try careful cultivation of your sexual energy for a few weeks.
Do you sense that you’re not realising your potential? Perhaps you have promising creative ideas and clear intentions but they hit exhausting snags. Maybe your inertia is so great that you’re not even billing clients. Or you're putting off filing your taxes. Perhaps you desire a relationship but…
Twin Flames practicing Karezza
Two sets of relationship coaches discuss the importance of connected sex and how karezza can further it. Sexual energy is creative energy, which can be channeled consciously rather than wasted with casual sex. Hamilton and Ingrid also share some love poetry from their joint book. “I feel…
Sex, Synergy & The Magic Flute
For Synergy explorers, it can be fun to see where in the cultural landscape representations of Synergy practices can be found. One of my favourites is Mozart’s opera “The Magic Flute”. Many people say it is full of masonic symbolism as Mozart was a member of that fraternity. Interestingly, many…
Vlogger and husband explains why sex with semen retention will save the world
This candid talk discusses Elliott Hulse’s experiments with karezza sex (a variation of Synergy sex). He advises his viewers to, “Stop being a slave to sex and take control of your sexual energy”. He reports improved sexual performance and increased pleasure for his wife. In this…
9 Ways A Strong Relationship Can Boost Your Health
A very vital component to health and well-being is a strong relationship. A strong relationship through emotional stability positively influences physical health and well-being. On the contrary, isolation from the lack of a strong relationship is directly associated with major health issues such…
How to activate your inner power with sexual energy
Malaysian Alexandra Miu shares her wisdom on inner power in this Universiti Teknologi Petronas TEDx talk. She explains how human beings can take sexuality to deeper levels. The key is to tap sexual power in the correct way. Miu also describes what can happen when human beings misuse their…
How does sex affect testosterone levels?
Stanford Medical School professor Andrew Huberman clearly explains how sex and ejaculation affect testosterone levels. Spoiler alert: Partnered sex increases testosterone. So does sex without ejaculation (Synergy). Ejaculation itself releases prolactin, which suppresses desire for a time.…
Synergy without intercourse?
Sounds like a contradiction in terms. Yet, what if you or your partner prefers to skip penetration for whatever reason? How do you tap the delicious benefits of intimate connection?If you’re a Synergy fan, you already know that the gifts of this practice don’t come from producing orgasms in each…
Tantra yogi Uriel Yariv on tantra’s benefits
Israeli tantra yogi teacher Uriel Yariv shares his thoughts on how to cultivate sexual energy to feel more alive. His primary interest is understanding the costs of too much masturbation. Yariv has much to say about the benefits to lovers.In Yariv's view, learning to tap your sexual energy is one…
Youth Sexlessness: Porn and Relationships in a Dying World
Israeli Professor Sam Vaknin traces the disturbing trends in sexless relationships today. Men and women are increasingly avoiding each other in real life even if they pursue frissons and fantasies online. Vaknin’s talk cites reams of recent research. It’s just over an hour long, but…
Experiencing ‘sacred’ sex
My experience of sacred sex has been in the context of creating and maintaining a monogamous heterosexual couple. I am not in a good position to talk about other relationship arrangements.To find total satisfaction without orgasm, you just need to be accepting and patient. The core idea is to…
Why are depression and suicidality higher in adolescents who engage in sex?
Sex is good for people, right? Yet do we know enough about sex to educate adolescents for best results to avoid any subsequent post-coital depression?Consider this 2021 massive, 178,664-participant study published in the International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health on Korean…
Secrets of Sexual Alchemy
This video furnishes a thorough history of sexual alchemy across various traditions: the Hebrew Bible, Tibetan Buddhism, the Vedas of India, Norse myths, Egyptian hieroglyphics. Essentially every religious system worldwide retains clues about how to harness one’s divine power through control…
A husband discovers Synergy lovemaking spontaneously
This intriguing thread appeared on Reddit's Semen Retention thread not long ago. A husband in his early 40s, married for 20 years, noticed that when he ejaculates during sex he experiences "a massive come down for about a week." He explained that, "as I got in to my late 30s early 40s it takes a…
Buddha, Desire & Synergy
Not long ago, German scientists set out to test Buddha’s famous maxim: Craving and desire are the root of all suffering. (Testing Buddha: Is Acute Desire Associated with Lower Momentary Happiness?)The results agreed with Buddha’s teaching. Happiness was significantly greater in instances where…
Can Karezza SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE ???
In this video, Love and Intimacy Expert Carolin Hauser shares why and how Karezza can save your marriage. Are you are struggling with roller coaster rides or a friendzone situation? Watch this entire video to see what you can do to save your marriage and rekindle passion. According to Hauser, if…
I Stopped Having Orgasms For 65 Days… Here’s What Happened
Stefan James takes a deep dive into his experiment with passing up orgasm during sex after reading Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow.He starts by explaining what happens in the brain during and after climax. Essentially, whether you’re masturbating or making love, “What goes up must come…
Living Sacred Sexuality
Sacred sex to me means that making love is more than just a mind and body experience. It also includes an element that makes us feel part of something larger, something sacred.In this blog I will sketch out some of my experiences using karezza, a form of sacred sexuality, to guide how I have…
Elliott Hulse: “When Bustin’ Nuts Goes Bad” – My Idea For Him (Karezza)
At 41, vlogger Elliott Hulse is noticing that conventional sex leaves him feeling drained. GoldJacket Luke recommends A Gentleman’s Guide to Karezza for more information. Karezza is a variation of Synergy lovemaking. Making love often has benefits if done in a way that…
How to INCREASE INTIMACY with Your Long-term Husband – FAST!
Learn how to increase intimacy and especially how to increase intimacy with your long-term mate. If you feel like you guys have drifted into the friends-zone this video will teach you how to build sexual intimacy and increase your libido even when life gets busy. German-trained…
Female sexuality on the altar of the Patriarchy?
From sacrifice to sacramentThe subject of Female sexuality and patriarchal religious dogma has been a source of exploration, in both philosophical debate and theological enquiry throughout the centuries.From the exhortations of Aquinas to the second Vatican council, questions to do with…
Menopause, Intimacy & Tantra – Janet McGeever (podcast)
Is menopause interfering with your love life? You may want to try gentle tantra to renew your intimacy and nourish each other going forward. In this "Better Relationships" podcast, host Todd Zemek speaks with Janet McGeever. They discuss whether a non-performance-oriented approach to sex can help…
Can karezza increase penis size?
Penis size! This may sound like a penis-enlargement commercial. However, some karezza lovers notice increases in length, and increased circumference is especially common. Curious as to why this should even be possible, I reviewed my knowledge of penis anatomy. The penis has three porous structures:…
Tolkien on sex
Men are not [monogamous]. No good pretending. Men just ain’t, not by their animal nature. Monogamy (although it has long been fundamental to our inherited ideas) is for us men a piece of revealed ethic, according to faith and not the flesh. The essence of a fallen world is that the best cannot be…
Can Synergy help you keep your resolutions?
Wondering how you're going to keep your New Year's resolutions? Researchers widely acknowledge self-control as a key predictor of productive, happy, and healthy lives. Now, new research suggests why Synergy lovemaking might be a great way to improve your chances of keeping your resolutions. Is our…
The Karezza Method: 5 Reasons To Try This Spiritual Sexual Practice
by Kesiena Boom, MS When it comes to sex, we usually talk about orgasms as not only the indicator of successful sex—but as sex's ultimate goal. Enter the karezza method.The karezza method's origins.Karezza is a slow and sensual way of having sex that entirely removes climax from the…
“Is monogamy natural?”
This video strings together clips of some popular spokespersons on the subject of monogamy. Some of the speakers correctly highlight the tension between our subconscious mammalian mating programs. Namely, we evolved with the urge to fall in love and pair bond. And we also evolved with the urges…
The British Museum’s tantra exhibition
This 19-minute video offers a guided tour of the British Museum's tantra exhibition. It's a great way to gain a sense of this centuries-old tradition, particularly in India. Westerners often grossly misunderstand the powerful, bloodthirsty imagery of this colourful spiritual tradition. For example,…
Indian God of Sex teaches how to harness sexual energy
A young man’s wish comes true…sort of, when the God of Sex instructs him on how to harness his sexual energy and gain a new lease on life. The God of Sex instructs him about a lot of other important concepts as well. Be ready to laugh.
A woman’s thread on Reddit’s SemenRetention sub
An interesting thread appeared on the Reddit Semenretention sub not long ago. A woman started it to report the benefits she and her partner were experiencing from cultivating their sexual energy. In the lengthy community discussion that followed she and others shared their observations. While the…
The Rewards and Perils of Bonding Behaviours
Bonding behaviours are powerful cues that evolved in mammals because they increase survival rates. They keep parents and offspring attached until the latter mature enough to go their merry way. In a small minority of mammals – bonding behaviours (grooming, guarding, sharing resources) also promote…
No Nut November In A Relationship (Here’s How)
Have you already learned the power of No Nut November? Why not enjoy its benefits when you’re sexually active with a partner as well? (And become a better lover in the process.)Karezza is another name for the Synergy approach to sex. For more on Brothermore’s book The…
The importance of touch
Experts discuss the role of touch in the context of research results from 40,000 survey subjects from 100 countries. Read the article Listen to the podcast Touch is a critical element of mammalian attachment. For more see What are bonding behaviours?
Sex: The Secret Gate to Eden
The initial trailer, "Sex: The Secret Gate to Eden" is for the related, longer documentary "The Great Arkanum* Gnostic Teachings." See below. Trailer (3.40 - followed by full length video)Watch full length documentary (1hr. 15)According to the documentary, the Great Arcanum* is the secret of…
Seth Porges on the critical importance of relaxed connection
Seth Porges is an American science and technology journalist and television commentator. He's also the son of Sue Carter PhD, who did groundbreaking research on oxytocin and bonding. Here Porges delivers an engaging talk on the importance of learning to relax and connect with others. The video…
Animation about what love is
This sweet, soothing animation about 'what love is', is a reminder about the importance of simple affection between mates. How many of these caring attentions do you exchange with each other? You may also enjoy this FAQ on bonding behaviours, which explains the biological significance of these…
Sex too soon kills relationships
Vlogger Aahana discusses the experience of herself and her friends. In her view, having too much orgasmic sex early in a relationship is problematic. It discourages couples from investing the energy that enables them to get to know each other deeply. Casual lovers tend to skip steps such as asking…
Synergy can also aid recovery from sexual problems
Suffering from sluggish libido during partnered sex? Is too much online entertainment to blame? Synergy might help. Deem discusses its use in recovery from sexual problems around minute 17.
What is Tantra?
What is the difference between Tantra and everything else related to sacred sexuality / sexuality consciousness / Sex Magick / etc? There is a strong tendency to put them all in the same basket labelled "Tantra". The term Tantra (and here I will not speak of Tantric Buddhism, which is a whole…
Explosive New Book For Men | The Gentleman’s Guide to Karezza Sex
Here is a man discussing a new book for men by a Nick Brothermore. Nick experimented with karezza (Synergy-style) sex and finds it beneficial. The book addresses men specifically. The author touches on various challenges, including how to present the concept to a lover.Growing numbers of guys…
Solving the puzzle of human existence
ave you ever thought trying to solve the puzzle of human existence? What puzzle? I believe one of the great goals of life is to understand the puzzle of existence that is placed in front of each and every human being. To solve it, one should first be able to fully see reality from this perspective.…
After Six Years of Celibacy, My Reintroduction to Sex Was an Unusual One
I’d been alone and celibate for six years, by choice, before I decided I was ready to date again. I craved a deeper, more meaningful relationship with a man than I’d had in the past. So I signed up to an online dating site hoping I might find that person. After a few months of meeting people I…
Karezza: Men Say Best Sex Comes Without Orgasm
(ABC News) By Susan Donaldson JamesMatt Cook hasn't had an orgasm in seven months, and he hopes never to intentionally have one again. The 51-year-old publisher from Virginia isn't celibate. Happily married for 25 years, Cook said his sex life is more exciting than ever. Giving up the…
Husband discusses Synergy approach to sex in his marriage
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Click on image and go to minute 49:00 for a discussion of why Jason Lange practices "sexual mastery".
Energetic and other benefits make it a useful skill.
Scientific American – the Clitoris
This short video (8’21") by Scientific American - the Clitoris, is a fascinating history of the clitoris. The clitoris is the organ responsible for sexual pleasure in women. If you don’t know about this vital organ, it is worth taking a few minutes to watch this video. The clitoris can be the…
10+ lifetime sexual partners linked to heightened cancer risk
If you’ve been lagging behind in the sexual revolution, not to worry. It might reduce your likelihood of cancer.BMJ Press release. A history of 10 or more lifetime sexual partners links to a heightened risk of cancer. Research published online in the journal BMJ Sexual & Reproductive…
‘Needless’ sex?
Here’s an inspiring description of Synergy-style sex by a non-English native (male): A wonderful sexual experience with no end. Hours of continuation. And no need for orgasm. Always like a summit of plentitude. A state of ‘needlessness’. Needlessness, but enjoyment. … I was so full of radiance.…
The Power of Mindful Sex | Diana Richardson | TEDxLinz
This video is a TEDx talk on The Power of Mindful Sex by Diana Richardson. Richardson is a sex educator, who describes the difference between mind-filled sex (hot sex) and mindful sex (a cooler approach). In short, it is the difference between an intention to go for either goal-oriented sex or for…
Sore back? Soft entry to the rescue!
Even if you are intrigued by the possibility of Synergy practices, a sore lower back can dampen your enthusiasm. Fitness issues are common amongst people of all ages. I am a woman of 61 and have been with my partner for almost nine years, practising Synergy all that time. Yet it wasn’t until I read…
How Does Karezza Work? (Healthline)
Benefits Methods Considerations Bottom lineWhat is Karezza? Karezza (pronounced ka-RET-za) is a type of gentle, affectionate sexual intercourse. The word “Karezza” comes from the Italian word “carezza,” meaning “caress.” The goal of Karezza, unlike most kinds of sexual intercourse, is not…
How to Approach a Woman Without Sounding Like a Jerk
So how do you approach a woman without sounding like a jerk? In my opinion, talking to a woman is easy. But I have seen a lot of guys make complete asses of themselves. As when guys approach a girl with stupid one-liners such as, “Hey I saw you from across the street and just had to come say hello…
Forty Per Cent of Aussies Aged 18-24 Haven’t Had Sex, With Tech & Social Media To Blame
Original article by Ally Burnie, January 23, 2020Believe it or not, Australia’s youth are currently in the throes of a sex recession. In fact, data shows that teens are getting 50 per cent less sex than their parents. Forty per cent of Aussies aged 18 to 24 revealing they’ve never done the deed.…
Anti-climax (Aeon Magazine)
Original article by Peter von Ziegesar Coitus reservatus, also known as ejaculation control, is the age-old practice of a man withholding ejaculation during intercourse, either through training or willpower. In our orgasm-obsessed culture, such an idea might seem counterintuitive and even perverse.…
Karezza and wellbeing
Karezza is sex without the goal of female orgasm or male ejaculation. With karezza, lovers receive the benefits of sexual love without the feeling of lost energy. And without the temporary hormonal swings that naturally follow conventional orgasm-driven sex. So what is the link between karezza and…
Make Sex, not Love? Heike Melzer | TEDxStuttgart
This fascinating talk by German neurologist and psychotherapist Heike Melzer gives viewers insight into the sex lives of couples today, especially those seeking therapy. She looks at the slogan “make love, not war”, and asks whether it hasn’t changed into “make sex, not love?” The problems…
Is mutual sexual desire indispensable?
Reading an article about asexuality by Natasha McKeever, I was struck by the paragraphs describing how asexual people can have successful sexual and romantic relationships. For example:[Some asexuals] will engage in sex in particular contexts and for particular reasons, eg, to benefit a…
Research: Less sex, but rougher
Young adults are having less sex than in recent decades. However, people who do have sex appear to be engaging in rougher sex than in previous decades. The study used a nationally representative sample. This especially applied to young adults. Particularly concerning are the high rates of choking.…
Semen Retention 101 (Caitlin V, sex coach)
Caitlin discusses semen retention’s effects. Interestingly, she includes its impact on emotions and character, such as reduced social anxiety and increased integrity. Why this video on semen retention? She says,I’ve never talked about semen retention because I come from an empirical…
Easing sexual frustration together
Nature’s plan for easing sexual frustration seems to be urging lovers to “burn out” on hot sex (satiety). This can cause relationships to unravel. Worse yet, this generally happens to one partner sooner than the other, pushing lovers out of sync. It’s not unusual for the one whose enthusiasm for…
Using Karezza in the Bedroom
This video is an enthusiastic report of a man’s experiments using karezza in the bedroom after he has given up porn. He suggests this is the next stage of recovery for those using websites such as NoFap, for example. Having reduced their sexual activity after quitting masturbation to porn sites,…
It’s called Making Love isn’t it? | TEDxNoosa 2013 | Janet McGeever
Australian mother Janet McGeever delivered ths TEDx talk, "It’s called making love, isn’t it?". Like so many parents today, she had found it difficult to talk to her teenage daughter about sex and pornography. Likewise, as with so many teenagers, the daughter didn’t want to hear her thoughts.…
Ready for Love?
In today’s fast-paced world of dating apps, reality TV and social media our expectations of finding “the one” at first sight can be somewhat unrealistic. We may kid ourselves that we’ll just ‘know’ when we see Mr/Ms Right. Or we may think that it’s so vital to see if we have physical chemistry that…
Interview with professor Daniel Lieberman MD – Romantic love
This video is about romantic love. It is an excerpt from a discussion between psychiatrist and author Professor Daniel Lieberman and entrepreneur podcaster, Patrick Bet-David on the book The Molecule of More: How a Single Chemical in Your brain Drives Love, Sex, and Creativity – and Will…
Semen Leaks and Exercises
Giving up the goal of orgasm is a necessary skill in sacred sexuality. One has to value it and want to develop it. For some men it’s easy; others, not so easy. It’s important to understand that orgasm and ejaculation are two separate things. Thus it is wholly possible to ejaculate semen and not…
Study: Postcoital Symptoms in a Convenience Sample of Men and Women
AbstractIntroduction Postcoital dysphoria (PCD) is a condition characterised by inexplicable feelings of tearfulness, sadness, and/or irritability. Previous research into postcoital symptoms has mostly focused on these 3 symptoms. It had failed to explore other symptoms that can occur after…
Natural Birth Control
As a couple we practice karezza and also natural birth control (NBC). Sometimes people ask us questions. What is natural birth control? It is a form of birth control that aligns with the natural state of the female body. How does it work? NBC consists of two practices working in conjunction: 1) A…
How The Sex Technique ‘Karezza’ Could Revive Your Stale Relationship
Original article by Kelsey Borresen, Huffington Post Karezza (sometimes called coitus reservatus) is more about connecting than climaxing. Sex that doesn’t culminate in orgasm (for both partners, ideally) is often written off as crappy sex. But for those practicing the sex technique known as…
How to make love last
Zackary Stockhill hosts this fun podcast, “How to make love last”. Primarily in this episode, he interviews author of Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From habit to harmony in sexual relationships, Marnia Robinson. In addition, we hear from her friend called Anya, who also offers her extensive input as…
Everything You Need to Know About Semen Retention
Original article by Ann Pietrangelo, healthline.com What is semen retention? Semen retention is the practice of avoiding ejaculation. You can do this by abstaining from sexual activity altogether, of course. Or you can learn how to orgasm without ejaculating. Although it may sound like some wild…
The Problem of Depleted Men
If you have ever had a smart phone with a weak battery, you’ve probably noticed how it cannot hold a charge very long. In using it, the backlight fades too quickly and the speaker quality is compromised. Truthfully, it is a pain in the butt. This is an analogue of the problem of depleted men. When…
Book review – Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow
Conor Ronayne, an open minded young Irish man, reviews Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow - From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships. The review is part of a series on semen retention available on his website, The Way Within. His reaction “It blew my mind,” he says. “The potential of this practice if it…
10 Questions To Ask A Potential Boyfriend
You can have fun dating, especially when you know what kind of life you want to have with a special someone. There's nothing like discovering a new you while attracting 'the one'. Use our list of 10 questions to ask a potential boyfriend as a bridge to Karezza discussions. Do their answers reflect…
Solo? Make the most of your sexual desire
Are you solo and finding sexual desire is distracting you and making frequent self-pleasuring a demanding necessity? You might try the following technique for a few weeks—just to see what you notice. Avoid orgasm for at least three weeks as you observe yourself. When you feel sexual frustration…
Penny For Juan’s Thoughts: (gay) Karezza Sex
If you thought karezza was only for heterosexual couples, give a penny for Juan’s thoughts on gay karezza sex in this interesting blog. Entire blog In this blog he laments how instant gratification and mediated communication are the foundations of society today. That we have to express…
Recovery coach discusses karezza
In this short video (be careful it starts loud) you hear from Noah Church, a porn recovery coach. He discusses “karezza”, orgasm and “the chaser effect”. It is one of the free series of videos on his website, Addicted to Internet Porn. Here he responds to a question from one enquirer, age 25, who…
Solo (What do I do with all this sexual energy?)
Giving up the goal of orgasm is a necessary skill in sacred sexuality. But that doesn’t mean one has to give up pleasure and sexual fulfillment. It does require, however, a certain effort to “rewire” the brain so that a new kind of pleasure can be experienced. Going solo? If so, you might be asking…
A new paradigm of pleasure
In this podcast, host Dr. David Moss interviews Carolin Hauser about sexual pleasure and Synergy-style sex, among other topics. You may wish to fast-forward to 34:00. For more