From this Blogs page you can explore news items of interest and people’s different experiences integrating Synergy into their lives.

Recalibrating Synergy Practice

It is very easy to think you are doing fine as a Synergy couple when there are no conventional orgasms happening during lovemaking. Yet if dream orgasms appear anyway, causing the usual wide fluctuations in mood and behaviour, something is going on. What? We had a lot of turbulence at home due to a…


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Misplaced genital worship?

Yoni pujas? Penis worship? By all means accept and respect your genitals and those of your partner. However, think twice before you worship physical genitals as a means of tapping into the dynamic forces that comprise the eternal, vibrant androgyny of creation. These underlying forces go by such…


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Stop chasing orgasms

[Every now and then the mainstream media addresses karezza (a form of Synergy lovemaking). Don’t miss the viewers’ poll reproduced below, in which more than two thirds of readers plan to give it a try! Learn more about Synergy lovemaking.]By  Alice Giddings Published Feb 1, 2024…


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What to seek in a Synergy lover

No one can draw from a well if the bucket has holes. ~ I Ching, Hexagram 48So, you want to try Synergy and you don’t yet have a lover. Or maybe you have serious doubts about the merits of Synergy, but you’re a natural scientist, and you like the sound of enhanced creativity, increased harmony…


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Evolutionary myopia

Evolutionary myopia

I have been poring over tantric and Hindu texts for decades. In my view, key texts and key philosophical points in Dharmic philosophy point to the prime importance of non-orgasmic sex as a spiritual practice. Therefore, it’s a source of recurring frustration to me when Western scholars insist on…


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Fiction writer takes on Synergy lovemaking

Here’s a review by Nick Brothermore, author of The Gentleman’s Guide to Karezza Sex:


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Is mating sufficiently broken to warrant a new approach to sex?

The New York Times published a Guest Essay entitled, “Why Aren’t More People Marrying? Ask Women What Dating Is Like.“ It doesn’t take a particularly keen observer to spot profound deterioration in the mating world. Many who grew up with the traditional goals of marriage and…


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Exploring Synergy

Exploring Synergy with a new lover

Have you ever tried to explain Synergy lovemaking to someone who has never experimented with it? Perhaps you begin by stating that it’s a very different approach to sex because orgasm is not the goal. For purposes of this post, let’s say your starting point has not caused your curious friend to run…


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Reich's Wrong Turn

Reich’s Wrong Turn

Recently, an acquaintance became mystified by the peculiar, but surprisingly common, claim that men who seek to reduce their porn use by joining online self-help recovery forums are “fascists, misogynists and white supremacists”. How did such an offbeat concept gain traction? It can be traced to a…


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Coping with the Kali Yuga

Tibetan legend has it that only sex without climax (tantra, Synergy, etc.) will allow people to cope effectively with mankind’s escalating spiritual deterioration. Curious? Keep reading. In Hinduism, Kali Yuga is the fourth and present age of the world cycle of yugas, or “ages”, and is…


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Reinventing desire’s endgame

Desire is critically important for living a good life, both at a basic level and in society. Desire fuels the achievement of the highest goals of human fulfillment. I’m not just talking about sexual desire here, but any volition, motivation, direction, wish, etc. The “movement…


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Lloyd’s Soul-Blending Embrace

Physician J. William Lloyd’s The Karezza Method by is a gem: short, eloquent, practical, and charmingly quaint (published in 1931). He eloquently advocates for karezza (a variation of Synergy lovemaking). Here’s a complete, but consolidated (and searchable) PDF of the book, and here’s a scan of the…


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If Your Mood Dips After Sex, Post-Coital Dysphoria Could Be The Reason

Original item by Brynna Standen for HealthDigest[Occasionally the mainstream acknowledges that the hormonal alterations that follow orgasm can set off unwanted mood changes. Here’s HealthDigest’s write-up about post-coital dysphoria. Perhaps one day researchers will investigate the…


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Stéphane Richer – Centre Summum (https://centresummum.com)

The key humanity has ignored

Humanity has thus far rejected the key that is capable of unlocking the most important doors of life. This key calls for harnessing both consciousness and desire, or Shiva and Shakti in the language of the traditional Tantras. Instead of employing this key, humanity typically remains blind to it.…


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Yin’s deeper mystery

To unite with the immeasurable heart and all-knowing mind of the Mysterious Mother, you must integrate yin and yang within and refine their fire upward. This is what is known as true evolution. ~ Lao TzuIf you are a yin lover, you form an essential element of the mystery Lao Tzu describes…


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Is Synergy misogynistic?

Critics of controlled intercourse (during which men don’t ejaculate) sometimes lump the practice in with solo semen-retention. Such practices are touted by both rational people and extremists. Critics then spread the absurd talking point that “semen retention is macho and misogynistic”. This is…


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How would Chinese sexperts view Watts, Freud and Reich?

In his Art of the Bedchamber, a scholarly anthology of ancient Chinese sexology texts, Professor Douglas Wile compared classical Chinese views about sex with the views of three well known Western sex commentators of the last century. Synergy fans may find these comparisons of interest. Watts Let’s…


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Neo-Tantra: pros and cons

Advantages and Pitfalls of Neo-Tantra (falsely called Tantra or Tantrism) Neo-Tantra is a child of the New Age. The “anti-establishment” counterculture movement of the 1960s birthed it. Some categorise “New Age” as a reaction of the people (populism) against religious institutions that…


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Ibn 'Arabi and sacred sex

Ibn ‘Arabi, sex, and the divine

Mystic, philosopher, poet and sage Muhammad bin Ali Ibn al-‘Arabi or Ibn ‘Arabi (1165-1240) is one of the world’s great spiritual teachers. He grew up in the Moorish culture of Andalusia in Spain, the centre of a remarkable cross-fertilisation of Jewish, Christian and Islamic thought.…


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Yin Magnetism

The famous yin-yang icon symbolises the living current of creation perpetually circulating between two poles. As R.L. Wing put it in the I Ching Workbook:Together, yin and yang represent the dynamic interaction that creates all of reality. The ancient Chinese say about this: “From the Creative…


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Why Contain Male Sexual Energy?

Koen Blom describes the phases he goes through when he contains his sexual energy. Among other changes he becomes more authentic and sees women as human beings. This permits him to evaluate women’s characters more wisely. He also becomes more comfortable in his skin and begins to feel a…


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The Foundation of Conjugal Harmony

The Foundation of Conjugal Harmony

Professor Douglas Wile’s Art of the Bedchamber (State University of New York Press) provides a fascinating look at a sex-positive culture’s classic treatises on sex. The authors of these works would have seen the wisdom of Synergy lovemaking. Ten precepts of Chinese sexology Wile’s rich anthology…


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Drs Huberman and Malik discuss the neurochemistry of sexual satiety

In this short video, Stanford neuroscience professor Andrew Huberman and urologist Rena Malik discuss why the brain is the “most important sexual organ.” Sexual arousal, sexual satiety and habituation are all reflections of neurochemical events. Orgasm triggers satiety and habituation,…


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In honor of Eros

A Jewish tradition of controlled intercourse?

Much of Judaism seems to revolve around the Genesis 1’s command to “go forth and multiply”. For this reason it’s difficult to imagine that Judaism once encompassed a tradition of controlled intercourse for spiritual ends. And yet, according to some, Judaism had its own esoteric tradition, which…


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How to be a sexy senior

I don’t know about you, but in my head I’m about 21, despite the evidence in the mirror. I think it’s common to continue to see the world in many ways through the eyes of our younger selves. That includes feeling attracted to people and perhaps wanting to have some kind of relationship with them.…


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Sex and Depression: In the Brain, if Not the Mind

Comment: A psychiatrist acknowledges that intense orgasm can create a hangover for some people without any apparent psychological issues. Maybe as professionals begin to explore the neurochemistry of extreme cases they will realise that the same neurochemical fluctuations are at work in more subtle…


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“Karezza” and the Sexual Reform Movement (Heinz Schott)

In 2015 Heinz Schott, Professor Emeritus of the University of Bonn in Germany, published a short academic paper. It appeared in a journal entitled Cultural and Religious Studies (July-Aug. 2015, Vol. 3, No. 4, 211-216 doi: 10.17265/2328-2177/2015.04.004) under its full title “Mesmerism,…


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The Cult of the Natural

The Cult of the NaturalThe catch phrase “go with the flow” seems to be on everyone’s lips. Often it often passes unexamined as an insightful guideline. But following “nature” is hardly a revolutionary philosophy. It’s the spontaneous tendency towards entropy, which the universe automatically…


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The magic of contentment (not satiety)

You know that flirty tension between you and your beloved? It makes your time together fun, burdens and stressors less burdensome and stressful, and eye contact with your lover a delight – whether you’re toting groceries or washing the dog. Alas, you probably take that flirtiness for granted. You…


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Shiva, Shakti and human potential

Anyone familiar with tantric sex has heard that, ideally, it calls for a dance between Shiva and Shakti. Some think of this as a synergistic exchange between lovers. In fact, the advanced Tantras reveal that these forces are not “male” and “female”, but rather energy impulses underlying all of…


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Did Krishnamurti hint at Synergy?

If you are a Jiddu Krishnamurti enthusiast, you already know that he was one of the most insightful, inspiring teachers of his day. Hailed as the new World Teacher by Theosophists, in 1929 he publicly renounced this honour at the age of 34. Instead he urged his listeners in no uncertain terms to…


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Tantric sacred sexuality

Tantric sacred sexuality is a millennia-old practice that aims to transcend the purely physical aspect of sexual intercourse. The goal is to make it a means of spiritual communion achieved with one’s partner. Unlike conventional sexuality, tantric sexuality does not focus on orgasm or…


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Online sacred sex conference (Nov. 2023)

Enjoy more than 21 leading experts talk openly about intimacy, love and sexuality for 7 days.Save your spot & book your sacred sexEARLY BIRD TICKETFor more: https://www.sacredsexualityconference.com/en  


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Multi-orgasmic or Synergy lovemaking?

Seems like an easy choice, right? But remember biology is sneaky. Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy by Mantak Chia (and Michael Winn) was an inspiring first introduction to the wisdom of making love without striving for orgasm. In it, Chia, a neo-Taoist master, taught men…


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Open-relationship disillusionment

Clinical Psychologist Dr. Oren Amitay and Registered Psychotherapist Malini Ondrovcik discuss open relationships in this half-hour podcast. Fantasies about threesomes and sexual novelty are generally not solid preparation for the realities of an open relationship. However much your mammalian…


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Ancient tests of sexual self-control

There are curious parallels between the European Assag practice of the Middle Ages and the Hindu Asidhārāvrata practice. Why were these tests of sexual self-control so similar? Asidhārāvrata In this ancient “sword’s edge” ritual the male subjects himself to sexual temptation without fully…


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Were we better off believing in the devil?

Chances are, you’ve long since ceased to believe in a malicious entity who battles for your soul. But the alternative is to take full responsibility for your lousy choices and their repercussions. Ouch! Feelings of shame can be toxic and debilitating. It can also mean investing a lot of time and…


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Sustaining Arousal

Instruction manuals and articles today consistently advocate that women should go after one or two peak orgasms, however they can coax them…and be content. This is just bad advice. And then there are the guys seeking to boost their own egos by making a woman explode over and over. This is an…


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Flow and sex

Sex may be one of the most potent behavioural reinforcements. In fact, in light of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s influential “Flow” theory it’s likely that sex can be a ladder to positive or negative inner changes. This suggests that intense sexual states have the potential to be either unusually…


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What’s the ideal amount of sex?

Multiple studies report that sex about once a week is good for relationship satisfaction, but there can be such a thing as too much. See Sexual Frequency Predicts Greater Well-Being, But More is Not Always Better, in which researchers write:Is it true that engaging in more frequent sex is…


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Affectionate transformation

In this post I discuss two important ways I help a partner make the switch to non-goal driven lovemaking. Be explicit Face it. Especially in new relationships, none of us like to dictate to others or risk being interpreted as implying that their lovemaking skills could be improved. And all of us…


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Post-coital dysphoria could be why you feel sad after good sex

[Original post from METRO] Having great, mind-blowing sex is an amazing thing but sometimes, no matter how much they rocked your world, in the aftermath you can feel a bit, sad. You can be lying next to that person that you love, respect and trust, but that doesn’t mean you’ll necessarily be on a…


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GQ surveys today’s relationship chaos

SynergyExplorers.org focuses on relationship harmony between partners. Therefore, current surveys that reveal the growing alienation between lovers hold a lot of interest. Perhaps if lovers are sufficiently dissatisfied, they’ll experiment with another approach to sexual intimacy. This…


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The awakening wand

Sometimes I like to think of Synergy/karezza sex as a form of “making out”, a playful, enlivening and innocent way to bond. I remember back in high school. I liked dating girls, but what I was really hoping for was a chance to “make out”. Since I didn’t want to use condoms and didn’t want to get…


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Primal Conscious Living, Loving & Dying (book review)

Book review of Primal Conscious Living, Loving & Dying: The Path of Divine Love, Intimacy, and Sacred Relationship by Leo K. JohnsonThis is the story of an extraordinarily mystical man’s journey to find himself, love, and spiritual healing and empowerment. At 161 pages, it’s more…


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The way of the sun

Is the sun a metaphor for sacred sex practices? In "The Creation" (Die Schöpfung), composer Joseph Haydn portrays the following statement musically: "In brightest splendor now rises the sun". Listen, as the sun proceeds from a tiny, timid ray of light to glorious effulgence in a single moment. The…


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Alice B. Stockham MD – Karezza’s creator (Part 3)

This post is part 3 of a three-part series about Alice B. Stockham MD (Part 1 and Part 2). This part addresses the spiritual aspects of the practice. Stockham makes it clear that, “conservation is not so much the result of retained secretions as the transmutation and transformation of vital…


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Tantra: Impulse or discipline?

The term “tantra” encompasses a jumble of conflicting advice. Some tantra lore unequivocally discourages orgasm to enhance spiritual awareness. On the other hand, some of it encourages employing orgasm as sex magic, or using some tantric principles to have more intense orgasms. Whom should you…


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Afternoon Delight

There is something exquisitely naughty about have some rumpy pumpy in the afternoon. It reminds me when, as a teenager, I’d occasionally bunk off of school towards the end of the day to go into town with a friend for a lark about. There’s nothing quite like some afternoon delight to warm up…


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The gift of fin’amor

Suppose you are thinking of attempting Synergy with a new partner. You’re obsessing about when you will next see each other and you’re having unaccustomed trouble sleeping. In short, your honeymoon neurochemistry is at a fever pitch. You know that if you engage in passionate kissing, let alone…


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What does Bing AI know about non-orgasmic sex practices?

Astonishingly, Bing AI did a creditable, if incomplete, job of executing the command: “List all the spiritual schools that taught non-orgasmic sex”. Karezza made the list, with some errors. Noyes didn’t invent the term and only male orgasm was discouraged at his Oneida community,…


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A young woman describes her karezza practice

In this video entitled, "Sex Love without Orgasm" a young wife discusses her experience of karezza (Synergy-style lovemaking). What is it like to make love without finishing with orgasm? What are the benefits? By the way, pronounce "karezza" "ka-RET-za" like pizza!


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The spark of life

We often hear about the importance of honouring the divine feminine in sacred sex. But what about the beautiful male energy that expresses the divine masculine? For me, such male energy has always felt like sunshine. When in its presence I experience a subtle buzz of wellbeing, serenity and…


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Observations on polyamory

Polyamory is a very complex subject. Depending upon how we see ourselves, quite different outcomes follow. I believe polyamory is neither good nor bad. It's just what some desire when they're not completely in love with one person. We can learn great lessons from both the poly and mono approaches…


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Alice B. Stockham MD – Karezza’s creator (Part 2)

This post is part 2 of a three-part series about Alice B. Stockham MD (Part 1). This part educates lovers on the practice. Stockham admits that for novice Karezza explorers, the practice will sound impossible. As a doctor, she patiently explains that the flow of semen is not essential to life or…


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“Enlightened Sex” – Free audio course

Check out this free audio course about karezza (a variation of Synergy-style sex). It’s a great way to introduce a lover to the concept. If you’re solo for now, use the audio course to educate yourself for the future. And visit this page while you wait. The “Enlightened sex” course…


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How To Recharge Your Romantic Life With Karezza

Dead bedroom? Drifting apart? Need a recharge? This 36-year old coach breaks down the challenges to monogamy in order to encourage his listeners to experiment with karezza sex. He points out that too much casual sex causes lovers to get bored of new relationships faster and faster. Coolidge…


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Why karezza (Synergy) makes sense to me

[This post comes from the “Healing with Sexual Relationships” discussion forum on Reddit.] I’ve always felt really upset with the way people treat one another. I’ve found that love, at the core of existence, wasn’t really treated properly either. It’s as if the…


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Women Have the Power to Change the World Through Sacred Sexuality

Fans of Samael Aun Weor will enjoy this Glorian video about women's role in the shift toward sacred sexuality. Can a woman's determination to cultivate and rechannel her own sexual energy make a difference in her ability to help her partner change course? Make your own experiment.…


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Alice B. Stockham MD – Karezza’s creator (Part 1)

At the dawn of the twentieth century, Alice Bunker Stockham, MD published a remarkable little book called Karezza: Ethics of Marriage. In delicate, Victorian language she recounts the benefits of sex without orgasm. These include better health, and greater harmony and spiritual attainment. In her…


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Bonding behaviours in action

A husband describes the affectionate activities he and his wife engage in daily. Do these behaviours keep them in love? Or do they engage in them because they love each other? More on the power of bonding behaviours.


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Why Do I Feel Sad After Sex?

Postcoital Dysphoria May Be To Blame [Original post from Scary Mommy] Sex can bring up a lot of emotions. Some of them are good feelings, like the postcoital bliss of peace, connection, and satisfaction. But some of them are not-so-good feelings, like anxiety, irritability, and sadness. Even if…


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Sexual Alchemy podcast

Listen to a lively exchange about Synergy-style lovemaking between Sexual Alchemy podcast host Libby Hudson Lydecker and counselor/naturopath Carolin Hauser. Both women agree that hidden spiritual potential lies in sexual union. And that humanity would benefit from learning to tap it. The host puts…


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Is four times a week normal? (EL PAÍS)

The exhausted Ben Affleck meme and the debate over how much sex is too much: Is four times a week normal? Multiple studies…


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A Poem for Synergy lovers

This poem appeared on the subreddit called “r/karezza“. Its female author practiced Synergy-style lovemaking with her husband for years. Divine Breath of Oneness Breathe in – with open heart Breathe out – into empty mind Breathe in – bearing the discomfort of chaos Breathe out – into…


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The Way of Harmonizing Yin and Yang

SynergyExplorers.org curates a treasure trove of ancient and modern texts about sacred sexuality and enhancing the harmony between intimate partners. We’ve decided to feature some of our favorites in blog posts. You can find many more under Traditions in our menu. This text comes from a book…


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Has ‘sex positivity’ fulfilled its promise?

Have you, perhaps unwittingly, subscribed to the sex positivity meme that better sex means more variety and therefore less commitment? This is today’s sexual-health message, directly and indirectly. Anything less than “unrestricted sociosexuality” appears to be constipated sexuality according to…


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Stillpoint lovemaking

The video clip below comes from a podcast featuring Australian couple Steve Hayter and Ester Zazzaro. In the clip Steve shares his most important tip for lovers who want to experience the transformative power of stillpoint lovemaking. The stillpoint practice calls for lovers to slow down, even to…


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Hormones and postcoital dysphoria (EL PAÍS)

Comments: A sensible article that addresses the physiological underpinnings of this not uncommon phenomenon. Hopefully, researchers will eventually investigate the milder, more subtle and lingering post-O effects (irritability, resentment, depression, fatigue…), and the disharmony they…


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Sex is going out of fashion

Sex is going out of fashion

[Another reason to master Synergy? Is too much stimulation driving us apart? ] [Original post by Loudt Darrow on “Well, Technically”] With every fetish having a dedicated subreddit and every vagina a Gwyneth Paltrow candle scent, it’s hard to believe lust isn’t the most…


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Finding Love Is an Inside Job

The fact is, most of us have not been taught as children how to connect with each other or with the Living Current of Life. Thus, we live lives seeking for “something” outside ourselves to fill emptiness within. But there is nothing outside that can teach us how to fill it. The fundamental skills…


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What’s so important about sex?

Gentle, loving intercourse without the goal of orgasm produces a comforting neuroendocrine “cocktail”. It differs profoundly from the fiery neurochemicals of passion-driven sexual arousal. For example, a gentler, heart-centred approach to sex appears to release soothing levels of the “bonding…


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The Way to Practise Semen Retention & Still Have Sex

Are you experimenting with semen retention, but also seeking the many benefits of partnered sex? Seb Jones (Masculine Wisdom, Self-Mastery and Awakening) explains how karezza (Synergy-style sex) meets sexual needs without energy loss. Comments from the comment section under the…


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KasumiKriss and Huynrich discuss bonding, trust and sex

YouTubers Kristel and Rich exchange nsights on how to build and maintain trust between partners. They also address the unsuspected costs of pursuing short-term pleasure given the neurochemical impact of climax.


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Men, want to help your lover nurture you better?

Men often justifiably complain about confusing, shifting gender roles. Their partners now find themselves in an equally confusing shift. Sexual passivity, or “lie back and think of England”, clearly produced resentment. After all, women are not mere objects for men’s use. No wonder recent…


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Karezza prioritises emotional intimacy over orgasm (VOGUE India)

At a time when the idea of consent and bodily autonomy is endlessly challenged, Karezza widens our jaded understanding of what truly constitutes ‘good’ sex“If you don’t orgasm, it’s not sex.”“You guys didn’t cum?”“But what happened after the kissing and cuddling?”These are some of the…


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What about female partners?

Sometimes people wonder whether Synergy benefits same-sex partners. This thread by same-sex female partners was spotted on r/karezza:My partner and I are both female, our understanding of karezza is similar to edging, where we intentionally push each other to a highly aroused state but not to the…


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What’s the ideal amount of movement during Synergy-style sex?

Experienced practitioner of sexual alchemy (a Synergy-style lovemaking practice) discusses the basics in this brief clip. Watch the full interview with Gene Hart. You may also enjoy his video entitled “How to Practice Sexual Alchemy / White Tantra / Karmamudra / Karezza Explained“.…


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What is karezza sex? Orgasm-free method releases love hormone to deepen couple’s bond (Daily Star UK)

Contrary to popular belief, orgasms are not a measure of successful sex. There’s an orgasm-free form of sex that’s just as pleasurable and sensual. Here’s what you need to know about the karezza methodMany of us believe that orgasming is the best measure of good sex. But the…


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Catholic hierarchy meets Synergy

Visitors who have spent time on this website, know that Synergy Explorers features traditional materials from cultures and religions around the world that promoted or hinted at Synergy-style lovemaking. One of the most intriguing examples of a modern Synergy movement arose among French and…


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Sexual relationships, empathy and porn

Early in 2022, a brilliant team of researchers from Israel and the USA reported that men with problematic porn use tend toward reduced empathy. (“Alterations in oxytocin and vasopressin in men with problematic pornography use: The role of empathy”) In addition, these guys suffer from increased…


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Why a handbook to explain Reserved Union to men?

For 20 years my wife and I have experimented with Reserved Union. I read many books on the subject of sex without the goal of conventional orgasm. Unfortunately, I never found any clear explanation of precisely how men who wish to postpone ejaculation indefinitely may do so. Eventually I mastered…


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The heart of chivalry

“She makes me a better man,” explained a young geologist. His parent had asked why he hadn’t broken off his relationship after a quarrel with his girlfriend (and future wife). Did the same desire to become the best version of oneself lie at the heart of the chivalry tradition? For those with high…


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Here’s why karezza sex is going mainstream

According to HER magazine, “Karezza sex is nothing new – here’s why it’s going mainstream”:The goal is not orgasm, but rather closeness and connection with your partner. In the past few years, column inches of publications around the world have been dedicated to…


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How to Practice Sexual Alchemy / White Tantra / Karmamudra / Karezza

This hour-long video eloquently explains the logic behind the practise that we call “Synergy”. Weaving together insights from multiple observers and traditions the video’s creator clarifies some important distinctions. For example, he explains why partnered sex is more powerful…


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“Seek for the sword that was broken”

Lord of the Rings fans may remember the above line from a prophetic poem that inspired the remaking of Narsil, a sword shattered in the depths of time. Reforged as Andúril, “Flame of the West”, the sword helped deliver Middle Earth. Where are the lovers who would explore Synergy-style…


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Single, lonely, seeking connection?

Being alone isn’t the same as being lonely. Maybe you genuinely enjoy solitude. You’re not antisocial, friendless, or loveless – just content with alone time. In fact, you look forward to it. This is “being alone” not “being lonely.” On the other hand, maybe you are surrounded by family and…


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Heavenly temptation

The late novelist George Moore often portrayed clerical themes in Irish life – generally with a good deal of irony. In A Story-Teller’s Holiday, he entertains his readers with a medieval folktale about temptation in a lively nunnery. A very determined Mother Abbess, with a supporting cast of…


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Taoist technique for managing sexual energy with a partner or solo

Are you struggling with demanding sexual urges? For thousands of years the Chinese Taoists have taught techniques for circulating sexual energy. Practitioners often master them as a solo practice. That way they become automatic when making love with a partner, where they are especially powerful.…


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