Labarin asali na Kelsey Borresen, Huffington Post

Karezza (wani lokaci ana kiransa coitus reservatus) ya fi game da haɗawa fiye da climaxing.

Sex hakan bai kai karshe ba orgasm (ga duka abokan tarayya, da kyau) galibi ana rubuta su azaman jima'i mara kyau. Amma ga waɗanda ke aiwatar da dabarun jima'i da aka sani da "kareza, " ba climaxing ba gazawa ba ne ko kaɗan - shine ma'ana.

Karezza, wanda ya fito daga kalmar Italiyanci don caress ("carezza"), yana ba da fifiko ga sassauƙa, nau'ikan jima'i masu ƙauna waɗanda ba su ƙare a cikin inzali. Manufar ita ce haɓaka kusanci, haɓaka sadarwa da zurfafa haɗin gwiwa.

Yana iya haɗawa da wasu bonding halaye kamar tausasawa mai laushi, sumbata, zurfin numfashi, kallo, cuddling da fata-to-fata.

"Manufar Karezza ba game da yin inzali ba ne, kuma ba game da tashin hankali da jin daɗi da ke haifar da inzali ba," Jesse Kahn, masanin ilimin jima'i kuma darektan Cibiyar Nazarin Jima'i & Jima'i a New York, in ji HuffPost. "Yana da yawa a hankali da ƙarancin tashin hankali."

"Ta ba da shawarar karezza saboda dalilai da dama: a matsayin hanyar hana haihuwa - watakila ba hanya mafi kyau ba tun da 'ruwa pre-ejaculate' da azzakari ya saki zai iya ƙunsar maniyyi mai rai - a matsayin al'ada don ƙarfafawa da haɓaka zumuncin aure da ingantawa. daidaito tsakanin jima'i ta hanyar ba da fifiko ga jin daɗin jima'i na mace," in ji likitan jima'i da ƙwararrun ƙwayoyin cuta na New Jersey Nan Wise, wanda ya lura da al'adar tana da tushe a ciki Ka'idodin Tantric da Taoist.

Mun tambayi masanan jima'i da su koya mana game da karezza da kuma yadda za ta iya sake farfado da tartsatsi a cikin dangantakarku da ta lalace.

Karezza yana rage damuwa game da aikin jima'i

"Wannan gyara akan inzali yana sa jima'i ya zama ƙasa da jin daɗi ga yawancin mutane," in ji shi Vanessa Marin, masanin ilimin jima'i kuma mahaliccin kwas ɗin kan layi The Passion Project. "Jima'i yana ƙarewa da jin kamar tsere har zuwa ƙarshe, kamar lokutan da suka kai ga inzali ba su da mahimmanci."

Ga matan da suke da taba inzali daga jima'i, karezza yana sauke matsi na karya a "Lokacin da Harry ya sadu da Sally"-salon kololuwa don shafan kishin abokin zamansu. Kuma yana iya zama abin sha'awa ga maza (ko duk wanda ke da azzakari) wanda ya magance matsalar rashin karfin mazakuta.

Marin ya kara da cewa "Idan kai mutum ne da ke fama da matsalar karfin mazakuta ko kuma inzali, za ka samu saukin sanin akwai wasu hanyoyin hada alaka da ba sa bukatar cikakkiyar 'aiki' daga jikinka."

Yana kawo ku cikin halin yanzu

Lokacin da kuke mayar da hankali kan samun inzali, yana da wuya ku kasance a lokacin. Ba za ku iya jin daɗin jin daɗin jiki da jin daɗin haɗin gwiwa ba saboda kuna ƙoƙarin ƙoƙarin kada ku rasa wannan motsin inzali.

"Kamar yadda nake so in ce, ' kallon inzali ba ya tafasa," in ji Wise, marubucin littafin. "Me yasa Kyakkyawar Jima'i ke da mahimmanci." "Yana nufin da zarar mun fara tunanin korar inzali, mun fita daga halin yanzu - kuma yanzu shine inda jin daɗi ke faruwa. Idan muna cikin kawunanmu, ba ma cikin jikinmu. Kuma idan ba mu cikin gogewar jikinmu ba, jin daɗin jima'i yana tsayawa."

Yana sa jima'i ya daɗe

"A cikin yin soyayya na yau da kullum, inzali ko maniyyi yakan kawo karshen bikin," in ji Wise, yana nuna Nazarin 2005 na ma'aurata 500 masu bambancin jinsi wanda ya gano cewa tsaka-tsakin lokacin da mutum ke ɗauka don yin inzali yayin jima'i shine mintuna 5.4. A cikin wani binciken daban, masu bincike sun gano yana ɗaukar mata Minti 13.4 akan matsakaita. Wannan bambance-bambance na iya bayyana, a wani bangare, dalilin da yasa inzali shine mafi fadi ga mata madaidaiciya.

Lokacin da inzali ya fita daga tebur, jima'i na iya dawwama gwargwadon yadda kuke so.

“Mutane suna jima'i kamar zomaye. Karezza ya fi kama da yin jima'i kamar kunkuru," mashawarcin jima'i Eric Garrison ya shaida wa Lafiyar Mata.

Yana barin ku jin kusanci da abokin tarayya

Oxytocin, wanda kuma aka sani da "hormone cuddle," ana fitar da shi yayin ayyukan nau'in karezza kamar runguma da sumbata, wanda ke haifar da dumi, m ji da jin dadi. Don haka ba abin mamaki ba ne gwanintar na iya barin ku jin ƙarin haɗi da abokin tarayya.

"Yana da babban zaɓi ga ma'aurata su sake farfado da dangantaka bayan wani nau'i na fashewa ya cutar da amincewa ga dangantaka ko kuma ga wadanda suka tsira daga lalata," in ji Liz Afton, masanin ilimin halayyar kwakwalwa a asibitin. Cibiyar Nazarin Jima'i & Jima'i.

Wani miji, wanda a baya ya yi fama da jarabar batsa, ya bayyana cewa yin karezza "yana haifar da jin daɗi a cikin dangantakar da ke da wuyar siffantawa - zurfi fiye da jima'i na al'ada," a cewar ABC News.

Abin da Ya Kamata Ku Sani Kafin Ku Gwada Shi

Ba ku bukatar zama cikin mahimmanci, dangantaka mai himma don aiwatar da karezza. Kowane mutum na iya amfana daga ƙwarewar ragewa da kuma daidaitawa cikin abubuwan jin daɗi a cikin jikinsu yayin haɗuwa da abokin tarayya, in ji Wise.

Amma idan aka yi la'akari da yadda ƙwarewar za ta iya samu, karezza na iya zama mafi dacewa ga mutanen da suka kafa amana, mutunta juna da jin daɗin juna, in ji Afton.

"Ba shine mafi dacewa ga gamuwa ta yau da kullun ba, sai dai idan bangarorin biyu suna sha'awar samun wankan oxytocin wanda zai iya haɓaka haɗin kai tsakanin abokan tarayya," in ji ta.

Don haka Afton ba zai ba da shawarar gwada karezza a kwanan wata ba ko tare da wani wanda ke nuna halayen ja. Ba ga kowa ba "hanjin ku yana gaya muku ba amintacce bane."

A ƙasa, masana suna raba shawarar da za su bayar ga mutanen da ke sha'awar gwada karezza:

Duba tare da kanku tukuna.

Yin wasu ayyukan solo a gaba - gami da dabarun tunani kamar tunani da yoga - na iya koya muku yadda ake haɓaka wayar da kan ku da taimakawa bayyana abubuwan sha'awar ku.

Yin al'aura zai iya taimaka maka samun tuntuɓar jikinka da daidaita cikin abubuwan jin daɗi.

"Muna bukatar mu koyi yadda za mu kunna kayan jin daɗin kanmu - jikinmu - kafin mu iya yin wasa a cikin ƙungiya - ko kuma yin jima'i da wani," in ji Wise.

Yi magana da abokin tarayya kafin, lokacin da kuma bayan gwaninta.

Yi magana game da abin da kowanne ku ke fatan fita daga gwaninta. Sanya wasu ƙa'idodi na tushe don ku duka biyun ku fito fili a kan waɗanne abubuwa (na zahiri ko na zuciya) kuke sha'awar bincika. Yarda da duk wani abu da kake son kaucewa. Idan abokin tarayya bai ji labarin karezza ba, raba abin da kuka koya. Ƙarfafa su don yin nasu binciken kuma tabbatar da cewa suna kan jirgin.

"Kamar duk wani aikin jima'i, karezza yana buƙatar yarda mai daɗi a kowane mataki na gwaninta," in ji Afton.

Fara a hankali kuma ku haɓaka daga can.

Idan kun saba da saurin-da-fushi, jima'i-kore inzali, karezza na iya zama babban tashi daga al'ada. Rage abubuwa na iya jin ban mamaki da farko. Don haka ɗauki ƙananan matakai don sa abubuwa su fi dacewa da ku da abokin tarayya.

“Na farko, gwada kawai yin zama da juna inda kuke mai da hankali kan taɓa juna a duk faɗin jikin ku. Kar a ma yi la'akari da shi a matsayin 'jima'i'. Ka yi la'akari da shi a matsayin ƙoƙarin ragewa da kuma mai da hankali don taɓawa, "in ji Marin. “Sai ku gwada yin zaman da kuke musayar ayyukan hannu, amma kada ku bari junanku su yi inzali. Sannan gwada shi da jima'i ta baki. Sannan kuma tare da yin jima'i, idan hakan wani bangare ne na rayuwar jima'i."

Nemo ƙananan hanyoyin haɗin kai, ta jiki da ta rai.

Wannan na iya zama in-syncing numfashi, tausa, sumbata ko ido - duk abin da ya kawo ku kusa da abokin tarayya.

"Yi la'akari da abin da matsayi ke rufe ko bude halin yanzu na makamashin da ke motsawa tsakanin ku," in ji Afton. " Sanya hannayen juna akan zukatanku, daɗaɗɗen gaɓoɓin hannu, matsayi na madubi da daidaita yanayin numfashi na iya ƙara jin daɗi da zurfafa haɗin gwiwa."

Kamar yadda Kahn ya ce: "Babu wata hanyar da aka saita don yin karezza - nemo abin da ke aiki a gare ku."

Kuma ku kasance tare da amfani da numfashinku kuma ta hanyar mai da hankali kan ji daban-daban.

Afton ya ce "Ka yi tunanin jikin abokin zamanka a matsayin magudanar kuzari domin shi ne." "Ka sanya kowane motsi tare da tausasawa, son sani da sha'awar koyo daga gwaninta."

Kuma idan ka yi inzali, kada ka yi wa kanka duka.