Yoni pujas? Penis worship?
By all means accept and respect your genitals and those of your partner. However, think twice before you worship lub cev genitals as a means of tapping into the dynamic forces that comprise the eternal, vibrant androgyny of creation.
These underlying forces go by such labels as “yin and yang”, “Shakti and Shiva” and so forth. Some worshippers have reverently sculpted these forces of the form of lingam-within-yoni (penis in vagina).
Despite appearances this is not mere fertility worship. They portray something more ambitious: the union of complementary energy currents. If managed carefully, these currents have the potential to operate synergistically, heightening spiritual insight.
What happens during so-called “sacred sex”?
Neeg nyiam heev tau employ Synergy-style lovemaking practices with genital union to merge these complementary energies. Yet, genitals themselves only zoo li to be the means.
The deep feelings of oneness and wholeness generated by conscious, controlled lovemaking arise tsis from vulvas or penises, but from the unseen currents flowing between lovers. The late Rudolf von Urban MD referred to these potent complementary currents “bio-electrical streams”.
Surprisingly perhaps, lovers have even tapped this nourishing exchange tsis muaj genital participation.
Kev tshawb nrhiav
[Mary had been terrorised as a twelve-year old by her stepfather’s rape attempt. As a result, she feared contact with men. In her mid-twenties, a young doctor fell in love with her. Fred promised that if she would marry him, he would not try to make love with her. Here the Tshaj tawm begins.]
Tom qab XNUMX lub lis piam ntawm kev sib yuav tsis sib haum xeeb Mary txoj kev hlub rau Fred tsis muaj tsawg dua kev mob siab rau nws rau nws. Yog thaum ntawd lawv tau siv lawv thawj hmo ua ke hauv ib lub txaj, lub cev liab qab mus rau lub cev liab qab. Fred's yog ib txoj haujlwm superhuman. … Txoj hauv kev zoo tshaj plaws los ua qhov no, nws pom, yog kom ua tib zoo mloog tag nrho nws txoj kev xav thiab kev xav, tag nrho nws txoj kev paub, ntawm cov seem ntawm nws lub cev uas kov Maivliag.
Lawv pw ze ua ke, tag nrho so, zoo siab rau qhov kev sib cuag ntawm lub cev. Thiab tom qab ntawd, tom qab li ib nrab teev, Fred tau hais rau kuv, ib yam dab tsi uas piav tsis tau tau pib ntws hauv lawv, ua rau lawv xav tias txhua lub cell ntawm lawv cov tawv nqaij muaj sia nyob thiab muaj kev xyiv fab. Qhov no ua rau hauv Fred zoo siab thiab zoo siab xws li nws tsis tau ntsib dua ua ntej. (Qhov kev zoo siab no tau txo qis yog tias ob leeg tsis tau da dej ua ntej pw ua ke.) Thiab Mary, nws hais tias, zoo li qub.
He had the impression that all these million sources of delight merged into one and streamed to the skin of those parts of his body which were in contact with Mary. His body seemed to dissolve; space and time dropped away; and all thoughts disappeared, so consumed was he by a voluptuous rapture which he could find no words to describe. Mary’s words for it were “superhuman”, “divine”.
Nkawd ob leeg, nws hais tias, poob rau lub sijhawm ntawd txhua tus ntshai kev tuag. Qhov no, lawv xav tias, yuav tsum yog kev saib xyuas ntawm lub neej tom qab; lawv twb nyob ntawm tus choj ntawm lub ntiaj teb cov khoom thiab lub ntiaj teb sab ntsuj plig. Lawv tau saj ntuj ceeb tsheej. Qhov kev zoo siab no tau dhau mus thoob plaws hmo ntuj.
Resetting
Tab sis, tom qab xya teev, ib qho kev xav ntawm kev ua pa tshwm sim. Lawv yuav tsum tau cais tam sim ntawd. Yog tias lawv sim tsis quav ntsej txog qhov kev xav no, lawv tau ua antagonistic rau ib leeg. Tab sis yog tias lawv da dej, los yog rubbed nrog ib daim phuam ntub, lawv tuaj yeem rov qab mus pw thiab rov nkag mus rau lawv lub xeev ntawm kev zoo siab tshaj plaws yam tsis muaj teeb meem. …
Hnub tom qab lawv ob leeg zoo siab thiab so, tag nrho ntawm lub neej thiab lub zog, cov neeg txawv txawv rau txhua yam kev ntxhov siab, pettiness lossis npau taws.
Hauv kev sib piv qhov kev txaus siab uas nws tau paub yav dhau los hauv kev sib deev ib txwm muaj, nrog qhov kev zoo siab tshiab no tau ntsib nrog Mary, Fred tau hais tias qhov sib txawv yog qhov sib txawv ntawm kev hlub hauv ntiaj teb thiab ntuj ceeb tsheej. Piv nrog rau qhov txuas ntxiv, kav ntev thiab zoo siab tshaj plaws uas tau tshwm sim los ntawm nws qhov kev paub tshiab, qhov kev zoo siab ib ntus, thaum lub sij hawm ejaculation, tsis muaj nqis mentioning.
Mary changed from a self-centered, anti-social, cold-hearted girl to a woman, warm, thoughtful and kind. They were both as deeply devoted to each other as they had been at the beginning. That was the story of Mary and Fred: fantastic, but I have no reason to doubt a word of it.
Kuv tau dhau mus rau lwm cov khub niam txiv uas kuv tau kawm los ntawm qhov no; thiab, thaum tag nrho cov xwm txheej tau ua tiav, cov txiaj ntsig tau zoo ib yam.
Bio-electrical streams
Nws yog lub cev ntawm kev paub dhau los uas tau ua rau kuv ntseeg tias kev hlub Platonic yog, ntau dua, tej zaum, qee yam ntawm qhov no dua li kev sib raug zoo ntawm sab ntsuj plig, lossis txawm Karezza. Cov lus nyob rau hauv Lub Symposium zoo li qhia tau hais tias "ib yam dab tsi uas lawv tsis paub dab tsi," uas cov neeg hlub xav tau los ntawm ib leeg, yog qhov kev sib pauv ntawm cov kwj deg bioelectrical uas ua rau lawv lub cev so kom txaus.
Qhov ntawd txhais tau hais tias lawv txoj kev xav zoo tshaj plaws yog ntxias, siv cov lus prosaic, tsis muaj dab tsi ntxiv dua li lawv txoj kev ywj pheej los ntawm kev nruj. Qhov ntau tus neeg tuaj yeem so lwm tus los ntawm kev ntxhov siab vim nws los ntawm nws cov kwj dej bio-hluav taws xob, qhov ntau yog tus neeg xav tau los ntawm lwm tus thiab kev mob siab rau ntau dua yog lawv txoj kev sib hlub.
Thaum kuv kawm Indian lub tswv yim kuv yeej tsis muaj peev xwm nkag siab tias vim li cas Nirvana raug suav hais tias yog Hindu xav tau. Yuav ua li cas lub xeev ntawm Nothingness yog lub hom phiaj ntawm lub neej? Tab sis qhov kev paub ntawm Fred thiab Maivliag ua rau kuv pom tias kev ua kom lub cev tsis muaj zog tuaj yeem yog qhov kev paub zoo tshaj plaws uas tsis muaj lwm yam kev txaus siab hauv ntiaj teb tuaj yeem piv nrog nws.
Qhov ntawd txhais tau hais tias thaum qhov nro hauv peb lub cev tsis tas, peb mus txog lub xeev ntawm so kom meej tias nws zoo li peb lub cev tsis muaj zog. Daim ntawv no ntawm "tsis muaj dab tsi" yuav yooj yim zoo li zoo li qhov kev zoo siab uas cov neeg sab hnub tuaj hu ua Nirvana.
Wholeness and spiritual perception
What the author calls “liberation of tension” could also be thought of as the mutual easing of sexual desire, such that the lovers experience a profound feeling of completion or wholeness. A deep, bliss-producing sense that nothing is missing.
Did Mary and Fred’s profound sense of effortless fulfilment make possible their heightened or expanded (i.e., “spiritual”) perception? Might exchanges of selfless, loving current – not for physical gratification – generate the deep, defenseless feelings of wholeness that align lovers with the oneness of creation’s dynamic current?
Alas, this couple’s subsequent story suggests that intentions play a key role. The pursuit of material plane (ego) goals ultimately appears to have imprisoned them within limited, material-plane perception.
Txij thaum ntawd los, ib tshooj tshiab tau ntxiv rau zaj dab neeg ntawm Mary thiab Fred. Mary tus niam txoj kev xav tau sawv. Tam sim no nws muaj peb caug xya xyoo thiab tau sib yuav tau kaum plaub xyoos. …
Tom qab ntawd, thawj zaug hauv nws lub neej, Mary tau muaj kev sib deev nrog Fred. Nws yog qee lub sijhawm ua ntej lawv tuaj yeem kawm coj lawv cov kwj deg mus rau lawv cov kabmob sib deev. Tab sis, txawm tias thaum kawg Fred tau txais kev pom zoo ib txwm muaj, nws lub zog tseem tsis muaj zog thiab tsis kav ntev txaus kom coj Mary kom txaus siab.
Kev poob siab heev lawv xav rov qab mus rau lub neej kev sib deev zoo nkauj uas lawv tau nyiam ua ntej. Lawv sim, tab sis ua tsis tau. Lub rooj vag mus rau lub vaj kaj siab tau kaw lawm.
Cov kwj xa hauv lawv lub cev tam sim no ntws mus rau hauv lub cev nrog kev sib deev, tsis yog ncaj qha rau ib leeg. Tsis muaj ntau npaum li cas lub hwj chim yuav nres lawv. Yog li ntawd, lawv rov piav txog Adas thiab Evas thiab lawv lub Vaj Kaj Siab uas ploj lawm. Thaum peb nyeem Chiv Keeb tshooj peb nrog qhov no hauv siab, peb pom qhov xav tsis thoob, lub ntsiab lus ...
Mystery of continent union
The spiritual mystery of union without sexual gratification – represented by religious yin-yang symbols – as well as more dramatic portrayals such as this one depicting the power of this sexual practice to eradicate the ego and supply spiritual nourishment – shows up in Western tradition as well. For example, the early Christians’ agapetae tradition seems to have rested on this same practice of loving sexual continence.
Agapetae (“Beloveds”) were Christian women, often clerics, who lived with male clerics in couples. Both had taken a vow of sexual continence (i.e., sexual self-control without pursuit of physical gratification). This put them in much the same circumstances as Fred and Mary spontaneously discovered above.
Scholars know this early Christian practice as kev sib koom tes (spiritual marriage). Alas, Church authorities eventually condemned it. Instead, they worshipped celibacy and procreation. Church authorities then worked to eradicate kev sib koom tes, which was “dangerous with a kind of heavenly daring”, as author Charles Williams put it almost a century ago.
In the process, might Church policy have obliterated the tib central mystery that gave rise to Taoism and Hinduism? Did the West thus lose the active tradition of continent loving union as a “way of the soul”?
Irrespective of dogma, it looks like partners who can place their love for each other above their desire for physical gratification can tap this mystery. Mary and Fred did.
So, what about genitals?
At best, genitals are optional where blissful wholeness is the goal. Whether or not they connect genitals, loving partners would probably do best to focus on sensing the unseen streams of energy flowing between them.
Synergy practices can be a safe way to include genital union if the lovers are conscientious. But genitals alone cannot generate feelings of oneness. Those feelings arise from the exchange of unseen currents. And genitals are not compulsory.
Ntawm qhov txaus siab:
