Panthawi yomwe lingaliro la kuvomera ndi kudziyimira pawokha likutsutsidwa kosatha, Karezza amakulitsa kumvetsetsa kwathu komwe kumatanthauza kugonana 'kwabwino'.

"Ngati sukhala ndi orgasm, si kugonana."

"Anyamata simunachite?"

"Koma chinachitika ndi chiyani pambuyo pa kupsopsonana ndi kukumbatirana?"

Izi ndi zina mwazofala zomwe otsutsa a Karezza amamva, makamaka akayesa kufotokoza kuti lingaliro lawo la zomwe zilidi "zokonda” alibe chochita ndi kutulutsa umuna kapena kutulutsa umuna. Kodi mumamufotokozera bwanji wokondedwa wanu kuti kugonedwa ndikugona ndikuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndizomwe muyenera "kumaliza"? Simuli nokha mukufuna kugonana komwe sikumayika zizindikiro zachikale kugonana ziyenera kukhala monga - apa ndi pomwe Karezza amalowa.

Cam Fraser, wophunzitsa za kugonana wochokera ku Australia, akufotokoza kuti Karezza ndi sewero pa liwu lachi Italiya loti "caress" ndipo limaphatikizapo njira yopezera. kugonana zomwe zimagogomezera kukhudza, kudekha, kuchedwa ndi kukhudzika, kuwonjezera pa chizolowezi chopewa kutulutsa umuna. "Izi zikusiyana kwambiri ndi njira yovuta komanso yachangu yomwe anthu ambiri amakonda kugonana, yomwe nthawi zambiri imatha ndikutulutsa umuna. Palibe cholakwika ndi zimenezo, koma ngati ndi njira yokhayo yochitira zogonana. Kuwona njira ngati Karezza kungakuthandizeni kukulitsa zochitika zanu zogonana. ”

[Mbiri ya karezza]

Fraser akuwonjezera kuti kutchulidwa koyamba kwa Karezza mu chikhalidwe chodziwika kudawonekera m'buku la John William Lloyd la 1931, Njira ya Karezza, m'menemo akuyamikira John Humphrey Noyes, woyambitsa bungwe lachipembedzo la utopian la Oneida Community, ndi kutulukira njira ya ubwenzi-woyamba mu 1844. "Williams analemba za Karezza kukhala njira yofunidwa. zosangalatsa kuzindikirika bwino ndi zotsatira zosafunikira zomwe ziyenera kupewedwa. Njira imodzi yokwaniritsira zimenezi inali mwa kuphunzira mmene tingachitire chiwerewere m’chifuwa popanda kutulutsa umuna, mwina pogwiritsa ntchito njira zina za kupuma ndi kutulutsa mphamvu.” [Zindikirani: Ndipotu, Alice Bunker Stockham MD poyamba analemba za karezza ngati njira yogonana. Analangiza onse awiri kuti ayese, monga anachitira John William Lloyd. Motsutsana, Zovuta imangoyang'ana pa "male continence".]

Ngati mukuyang'ana kuyesa china chatsopano komanso chodzipangitsa nokha mchipinda chogona, pali zolozera zingapo zamomwe mungayandikire "coitus reservatus":

 1. Kutsindika kukhale pa konsekonse ubwenzi wapamtima

Lingaliro la munthu paubwenzi lingakhale losiyana kwambiri ndi la bwenzi lake. Kufikira pati, ndiye, Karezza amapanga njira yosiyana yoyang'ana ubwenzi wapamtima? Malinga ndi Fraser, njira zina zopezera chilakolako chogonana ndi monga “kuyang’ana m’maso, kupuma motsatizana, kuyesa kusatulutsa umuna, kugonana popanda cholinga chilichonse m’maganizo, kusisita thupi lonse, kuloŵa m’malo mochedwa kwambiri ndiponso kugogomezera kwambiri za chisembwere ndi kukhudzika mtima. kutengeka maganizo.”

 2. Muzilankhulana nthawi zonse

Iwo amati palibe chomwe chimafanana ndi kuyankhulana mopitirira muyeso, makamaka pankhani yogonana. Monga momwe zilili ndi njira iliyonse, chilolezo chiyenera kukhala champhamvu ku Karezzanso: funsani nthawi zonse, pitirizani kufunsa ndi kusunga kumvetsetsa. Dr. Nive Manokaran, a dermatologist ndi katswiri wa zachipatala ku India komanso dokotala wa zachipatala ku Sydney, akukhulupirira kuti “kuvomereza kumasonyeza kuti mumalemekeza wokondedwa wanu ndipo ulemu weniweniwo ukhoza kukhala wodzutsa chilakolako.” Ambiri sangamvetse chilankhulo cha thupi ndipo angayembekezere kulankhulana ndi mawu. “Ngati mukuona ngati wokondedwa wanu sakumvetsetsa zomwe zimakuchitikirani, ndikofunikira kuti muzilankhulana momasuka, kufotokoza zomwe mukufuna komanso zomwe mukufuna. Komanso khalani okonzeka kuvomereza zimene angachite.”

 3. Osamagonana ndi zolinga

Kuyandikira kugonana mwadongosolo, mwamakina kumangowononga. Kwa ambiri, kukhala ndi orgasm ndikofunikira, koma kwa ena, kupsompsonana kwanthawi yayitali kapena kuyesa magawo anayi osiyanasiyana ndikofunikira. Karezza amayesa kupitilira izi zolinga zokhazikika. Fraser akufotokoza kuti: “Cholepheretsa chachikulu kuchita nawo Karezza ndicho kukhazikika m’maganizo akuti kugonana kumafuna kukwaniritsa chinachake. “Anthu ambiri amagonana mongoganizira zofuna zake, zomwe zimaika patsogolo chilakolako cha kugonana ndipo zingawakhumudwitse ngati sanakwanitse. Karezza sikutanthauza kukwaniritsa kalikonse, koma kukhalapo mosangalala ndikuchotsa zolinga, zomwe amakhulupirira kuti zimalola kuti munthu amve zambiri za orgasmic. "

 4. Siziyenera kuthera mu kugonana

Poganizira malingaliro akuluakulu a momwe kugonana kumayenera kuwoneka bwino - komwe kumakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi chikhalidwe cha pop ndi zolaula - zikhoza kukhala zosatheka kumvetsetsa kugonana kupitirira kung'ung'udza ndi kulowa mkati. Dr. Manokaran amakhulupirira kuti kuti mukhale ndi kugonana kwabwino, choyamba muyenera kukhala omasuka ndi anthu omwe ali pachiopsezo. Iye anati: “Kukhoza kuyang’ana m’maso mwa munthu n’kungomusisita ngakhale musanamugwire. "Kupumula pambuyo pa tsiku lalitali kukwatirana ndi mnzathuyo titavala bulangete lofunda, lokoma ndi kusisita mphumi kapena makutu mwina ndi zina mwa njira zabwino kwambiri zoyambira kapena kumaliza usiku.” Ananenanso kuti Karezza safunikira kuti athetse kugonana, koma ikhoza kukhala imodzi mwazokonda kwambiri, zapamtima komanso zodabwitsa zomwe mumakumana nazo monga "kulumikizana kwamalingaliro komwe kumapangidwa panthawi ya kusisita kumakhala moyo wonse."

 5. Mvetserani chilankhulo chachikondi cha wokondedwa wanu

Dr. Manokaran akunena kuti zikafika ku Karezza, nthawi zambiri timazitenga mopepuka kuti mnzathu amalembetsanso mfundo zofanana za chisangalalo. Mwinamwake lingaliro lawo la ubwenzi limaphatikizapodi kulowerera, ndipo ngati zili choncho, palibe chifukwa chowachitira manyazi kapena kuwapangitsa kudziona kuti ndi olakwa chifukwa cha mmene amaonera kugonana. “Nthawi zina, kusisita kungakhale kolemetsa kwa ena, makamaka kwa omwe chilankhulo chawo chachikondi sichimakhudzanso. Kugonana kumatha kutembenukira kumbali imodzi, choncho nthawi zonse perekani mpata kwa mnzanuyo kuti akhale yekha. "

Nkhani yoyambirira ya Arman Khan