The video clip below comes from a podcast featuring Australian couple Steve Hayter and Ester Zazzaro. In the clip Steve shares his most important tip for lovers who want to experience the transformative power of stillpoint lovemaking.
The stillpoint practice calls for lovers to slow down, even to the point of remaining motionless for long periods of time. In this way their focus shifts away from mentally orchestrating sexual performance and toward sensations in the present. This enables them to identify, and more accurately direct, the subtle, nourishing energy flowing between them.
Doing rather than being
In the full podcast, Ester shares how she experienced being led to the practice via her inner wisdom. Steve, in turn, talks about the challenge of giving up past conditioning and setting aside his expert (conventional) lovemaking skills.
Stillpoint lovemaking is not for the faint of heart. Lovers must face the discomforts of initial boredom, erections that come and go, and the need to be as forthright as possible with each other about what they’re feeling (and not yet feeling).
Above all, they want to stay curious about what bubbles up when they set aside “doing” and focus fully on “being”.
You can visit their Facebook page at Sacred Lovemaking Unveiled.
