In a chapter entitled “Consummation”, writer, theologian, and speaker Alan Watts describes tantric sex in terms of a kundalini experience. He also presumes the experience should entail ejaculation and orgasm for both partners. In this sense, he is not describing Synergy sex. Yet his work and his misinformation about karezza* and have powerfully influenced popular culture for decades, so we include some of it here for our visitors.


PDF of “Consummation” chapter


The full splendor of sexual experience does not reveal itself without a new mode of attention to the world in general. On the other hand, the sexual relationship is a setting in which the full opening of attention may rather easily be realized because it is so immediately rewarding. It is the most common and dramatic instance of union between oneself and the other. But to serve as a means of initiation to the “one body” of the universe, it requires what we have called a contemplative approach. This is not love “without desire” in the sense of love without delight, but love which is not contrived or willfully provoked as an escape from the habitual empty feeling of an isolated ego.

…Nothing is done to excite the sexual energy; it is simply allowed to follow its own course without being “grasped” or exploited by the imagination and the will. In the meantime the mind and senses are not given up to fantasy, but remain simply open to “what is,” without–as we should say in current slang–trying to make something of it.

…There is all the difference in the world between gobbling and actually tasting food when one is hungry. It is not merely that appetite needs restraint; it needs awareness–awareness of the total process of the organism-environment moving into action of itself. ….There comes a moment when more intimate sexual contact occurs with an extraordinary mutuality.

Watts, Alan. 1958. Nature, man, and woman. New York: New American Library.

Alan Watts

This short video features an excerpt of Watts speaking. The age restriction seems to be related to the sacred sex imagery chosen by the person who created the video.

Alan Watts

* Watts incorrectly states in his video that “karezza” is a Persian word. Actually, an American medical doctor named Alice Bunker Stockham MD coined the term at the end of the 19th century. She derived it from the Italian word for “caress”. Watts also assumed karezza discouraged orgasm only in men, whereas Stockham recommended both partners forego it.