Meet The Karezza Couple (Gentle, No Orgasm Sex)

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Karezza couple Paul and Shelby are young Americans. Porn recovery coach Gold Jacket Luke interviews them. The trio discuss ways of helping recovering porn addicts by encouraging them to experiment with an alternative form of love making. It is called karezza. It’s about gentle, no orgasm sex that promotes closeness and bonding between a couple rather than focusing on high passion.

Karezza couple Paul and Shelby have been practising karezza for four years. Paul says the benefit of gentle, no orgasm sex is that is you release more of the cuddle hormone, oxytocin. “You stay feeling connected and there is no pitfall afterwards where you lose attraction to your partner. Lovemaking never ends. You stay in love and feel like you did when you met the first time.”

He reveals that he has barely ejaculated in the past few years. “Every single day is like you first see [your partner]. If you do want to orgasm at some point, you are likely to have less of a hangover because you have all the bonding.”

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He and Shelby say karezza is the best way to keep a couple’s marriage happy and to stay healthy. They offer tips for introducing karezza in the early days of a romance and what to do about contraception. They reveal that they used condoms in beginning when starting out before reading about the Glow app that said a woman can only get pregnant 5 days out of the whole month.

Paul offers some particular tips for the guys to make karezza work. He suggests a slow start, train hard at first. “It’s not normal sex without orgasm. Don’t get ramped up with the usual foreplay—don’t be discouraged. Give it a couple of months.  Take baths together, brush her hair, lie on the bed together. Have a set aside time. Don’t just do a quickie. Set aside 2 hours. Ease into it. Watch a funny movie together. Process and realise what is getting in the way of your relationship. Making your relationship the primary focus is super important.”