Ngaba uyabona ukuba akuziqapheli izinto onazo? Mhlawumbi uneembono ezithembisayo zokuyila kunye neenjongo ezicacileyo kodwa zibetha i-snags edinayo. Mhlawumbi inertia yakho inkulu kangangokuba awude uhlawule abathengi. Okanye uyakubekela ecaleni ukufaka iirhafu zakho. Mhlawumbi unqwenela ubuhlobo kodwa awubonakalisi ubomi basekuhlaleni. Mhlawumbi kufuneka uhlaziye iminyaka kodwa awukwazi ukuqalisa.

Kuthekani ukuba unendlela yokunyusa amandla akho kwaye ungahlali - kwaye le ndlela ayikubizi nto? Ungayizama iiveki ezi-3 ukubona ukuba iyanceda na? Nokuba ibingaziwa okanye icel' umngeni iingqikelelo zakho ezikhoyo? Ukuba kunjalo, qhubeka ufunda.

Ukutyhubela amawaka eminyaka, izithethe ezahlukahlukeneyo zazikholelwa ukuba abantu banokusebenzisa “umnqweno wokumanyanisa” (amandla esini) ukuze bafumane iinjongo ezakhayo. Iinkcubeko ezahlukeneyo zicebise imimiselo eyahlukeneyo. Nangona kunjalo ingqiqo engundoqo ilula kakhulu: uvuthondaba lukhupha ngamandla.

Enyanisweni, phantse inkulungwane eyadlulayo, i-anthropologist A. UErnest Crawley wabhala ukuba le nto inqabileyo (njengoko wayigwebayo) isiluleko savela rhoqo kwiinkcubeko ezahlukeneyo zezizwe. Ngapha koko, wayibonakalisa indima yayo kwezo nkcubeko “njengempumlo engenakusilela kuyo yonke imisebenzi ebalulekileyo kunye neendawo ezibalulekileyo”.

Ungazivavanya oku ngokwakho

Ukuba uneqabane, zama iiveki ezimbalwa Ukuziphatha okuhle, Synergy [PDF yesahluko sencwadi], okanye ukucamngca ngesondo. Ukuba ufikelela kuvuthondaba, yiyeke lento uyenzayo. Thatha ezinye Ukucotha, ukuphefumla okunzulu kunye. Lindani nide nizive nizolile nobabini. Unokufumana iiveki ezi-3 zolu qheliselo lubonelela ngesithuba kwii-frolics ezinentliziyo ekhanyayo, ezingajolisanga njongo.

Ukuba awunayo iqabane, forego ukuvuselela inkanuko kunye nokonwaba ngokwakho iiveki ezi-3. Ukuba uxinzelelo lwezesondo luyakhula okanye unengxaki yokulala cinga ngokuzama amandla okujikeleza amandla. Kwakhona, abanye abantu baxela ukuba ukuthamba, ukungajoli okuqhutywa “kokucofa” okanye ukubamba amalungu abo angasese kuyathomalalisa. Ngokunjalo unako ukuntywiliselwa kumalungu akho angasese ashushu okanye abandayo. Nangona kunjalo, zombini zibambe ngenjongo yokuzivusa kunye nokushukuma emphethweni wovuthondaba zingqina ukuba azinamveliso. Bona okukusebenzelayo. Ungafumanisa ukuba emva kwethuba lovavanyo uxinezeleko lwakho luphela luyehla. Yaye ungamangaliswa xa uqalisa ukuba nomtsalane kubomi basekuhlaleni.

Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela oyisebenzisayo kuvavanyo lwakho, bhala phantsi imigqaliselo yakho. Emva kweeveki ezi-3, buyela kwimikhwa yakho yangaphambili kwiiveki ezi-3 kwaye uqhubeke nokubhala kwinqaku lakho. Voilà. Ukuya phambili, ungatshatha ikhosi yakho ngokusekelwe kumava akho okwenyani.

Yintoni eye yaphawulwa ngabanye?

Iziphumo zingakothusa. Umhlobo othandabuzayo ongatshatanga, owayehamba ngobudoda kumgxobhozo wokuthandana kwi-intanethi, wafumana i-imeyile eyothusayo evela kwintombi eyayisakuba yintombi ngexesha lovavanyo lwakhe lwesibini lokukhulisa amandla ngokwesondo. Baluvuselela ubuhlobo babo. Ngexesha lovavanyo lwakhe lokuqala isimangalo esinameva sazinziswa ngokungalindelekanga. Oko kwakhulula ixesha lakhe kwaye kwayiphucula imeko yakhe yemali. Ngoku uqinisekile ukuba amandla akhe esini anamandla ngakumbi kunokuba wayecinga. Nangona kunjalo usakufumana kulucelomngeni ukuhambelana ngokupheleleyo ngexesha lakhe yedwa.

Omnye umhlobo uhlakulela amandla akhe esini kubudlelwane obutsha. Wayesazi iqabane lakhe elitsha iminyaka kwiqela le-intanethi. Emva kokuba bedibene ngokobuqu wazimisela ukufudukela kwisixeko sakhe. (Ebesoloko ejonge ukufuduka.) Unika ingxelo yokuba ulwalamano lolo lolwenyama kwaye luyanelisa. Bayonwabela unxibelelwano lwabo kunye nethuba lokufumana umsebenzi wabo wobomi kunye. Baceba ukuqala ngokutyala imali kwikhaya kunye.

Ukanti omnye umhlobo wakhe okwiminyaka yakhe yokuqala yama-30 wayesoloko ekhalaza ngelithi ubomi bakhe abuqhubeli phambili. Waye waxinga esebenza yedwa ekhaya emsebenzini iminyaka eyi-7 apho wayengaxatyiswanga kwaye enganwenwanga. Wayesoloko esenza izizathu zokuba engazange adibane nabani na ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, nangona inkangeleko entle, imfundo entle kunye nobulumko obukrelekrele. Inyaniso yayikukuba, wayengazami nzima kakhulu kuwo omabini amabala.

Ukufunda kwakhe ngokunzulu iitekisi zomoya malunga noBuddha, nangona kunjalo, ekugqibeleni kwamenza waqonda ukuba ingxaki ayihlali kwiziganeko zangaphandle kodwa ngaphakathi kwakhe. Ukuncamathela kwakhe kulonwabo lwe-intanethi kumshiye engonelisekanga bubomi kwaye engenamandla kunye nomdla.

Kwiiveki ezimbini zokujolisa amandla akhe kwenye indawo, wazingelwa yintloko yinkampani ephezulu kwintsimi yakhe. Umoya wakhe wawuphucuke kakhulu ngokunjalo.

Amandla ezesondo anokuchaphazela njani iziganeko zangaphandle?

Akumangalisi ukuba, eyahlukileyo zithethe chaza amandla okuhlakulela ngononophelo amandla esondo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. AmaTao amandulo aseTshayina athetha ngokugcina amandla obomi angabonakaliyo kodwa anamandla, okanye ingoma, kunye nokuwuhlakulela ukuze ufumane iziphelo eziphezulu. Ezinye izithethe zigxininise iingenelo zokuphinda kusetyenziswe amalungu amadlozi ngokwawo ukondla ingqondo. (Le ngcaciso entsonkothileyo idumileyo ayinikezi kukhanya ukuba kutheni na abafazi befumanisa ukuba olu qheliselo luluncedo.)

Abanye abakhi-mkhanya bale mihla banikela ingcaciso eyahluke ngokupheleleyo. Bacebisa ukuba izibonelelo zokuhlakulela amandla ezesondo zivela ekugcineni ibhalansi ye-neuroendocrine kumjikelezo obuthathaka we-limbic yobuchopho. Ngandlel’ ithile encinane eqondwayo, imeko yangaphakathi elungeleleneyo eyenziwa kukukhuliswa ngenyameko kwamandla esini kuphelisa uxinezeleko. Oku kubonakala kuvelisa iziphumo eziphuculweyo - mhlawumbi ngendlela yezisombululo ezingalindelekanga.

Ngaba enye yezi ngcaciso ingentla ibambe amanzi okanye ingcaciso eyinyani isahleli ingafunyanwa? Ngubani okukhathaleleyo nje ukuba uphumelele ukusebenzisa amandla akho esondo, ukungazinzi, kwaye uqhubele phambili ubomi bakho? NjengoDorothy kwi “Wizard of Oz” yenza nje eyona nto yokuba ubuzulazula kwizilayiphu zerubhi ngalo lonke ixesha.

Ingcebiso yokugqibela: Musa ukuvumela iziphazamiso zikwenze ube ne-inetia. Sele uyazi ukuba yintoni na imveliso yokuzonwabisa. Phuhlisa amandla amatsha kunye nenkuthazo njengoko ufunda ukwenza uninzi lwamandla akho esondo, uhlaziye umoya wakho kwaye uphume kwi-rut yakho uye kwikamva eliphakamisa ngakumbi.