Listen to a lively exchange about Synergy-style lovemaking between Sexual Alchemy podcast host Libby Hudson Lydecker and counselor/naturopath Carolin Hauser. Both women agree that hidden spiritual potential lies in sexual union. And that humanity would benefit from learning to tap it.

The host puts forth the view that the expansiveness of female orgasm means its benefits outweigh any imagined drawbacks. Hauser suggests experimenting with bonding-based lovemaking for at least a month with an open mind. Only then can lovers compare the two approaches. In her experience, post-orgasm emotionality over the days or weeks following can make life miserable. Lovers just don’t connect it with orgasm unless they experiment over longer stretches of time, and then compare results.

In Hauser’s view, biology has its own agenda. Driving partners apart and on to new mates is part of that agenda.

She acknowledges that lovemaking without the goal of orgasm is for those who are ready for it and who wish to place sustained harmony first. In contrast, Sexual Alchemy host Hudson Lydecker argues that it ain’t broke, so don’t fix it.