Kwa anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, anthu amakopeka ndi anthu okongola. Ngakhale kuti n'kothandiza posankha okwatirana atsopano, kuyang'ana njira zina zokopa zaubwenzi kungawononge kukhutira ndi kudzipereka ku chibwenzi chomwe chilipo kale. Kafukufuku waposachedwa adayesa lingaliro lakuti ngakhale kuti kukwatirana kumawonjezera chidwi chofuna kukopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (zokhudzana ndi zolinga zochepa) pakati pa omwe akutenga nawo mbali, izi zingachepetsedwe pakati pa anthu omwe adzipereka kale kwa okondedwa a nthawi yaitali. Mogwirizana ndi zongopeka, pamene osakwatiwa adayankha nthawi yoti ayambe kukwatirana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe ali ndi chidwi chofuna kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (poyerekeza ndi zofuna zochepa), omwe ali pachibwenzi chodzipereka sanasonyeze zimenezo. Zotsatirazi zimakulitsa kafukufuku wam'mbuyomu wosonyeza kukhalapo kwa njira zosamalira maubwenzi zomwe zimagwira ntchito koyambirira kwa kuzindikira kwa anthu.