Akukho mntu unokukha equleni ukuba ibhakethi linemingxuma. ~ Ndithi, Hexagram 48
Ke, ufuna ukuzama iSynergy kwaye awukabinaye umthandi. Okanye unokuba namathandabuzo amakhulu malunga nokufaneleka kwe-Synergy, kodwa uyisazinzulu sendalo, kwaye uyasithanda isandi sobuchule obuphuculweyo, umanyano olwandisiweyo kunye nokucaca okukhulu. Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela unqwenela ukuyizama ngokholo oluhle.
Loluphi uhlobo lomthandi ofanele ujonge? Iyahenda? Charismatic? Ezokomoya? Umhlaba? Docile? Macho? Unamava? Ngaba awunamava?
The sine qua non
Esona siqinisekiso sibalulekileyo somthandi we-Synergy silula: ukuvuma okungenamiqathango ukuzama ukuthembeka okupheleleyo. Nokuba ngaba iqabane elinokubakho liyacengwa ngokufaneleka kwe-Synergy, ngaba baya kuzama iinyanga ezimbalwa zokutshintshiselana kwamandla othando ngelixa bephethe amandla abo okwabelana ngesondo (akukho orgasm) ngokuthembeka okupheleleyo? Qaphela: Ngaba unokuchitha ubusuku obuninzi kunye? Ukuba kunjalo, uvavanyo lwenyanga lunokuba lude ngokwaneleyo ukukubonisa into ekufuneka uyazi ukuze ubone iinketho zakho ngokucacileyo.
Ungaze ucinge ukuba ngubani uthi malunga nokuba bazimisele kangakanani. Ungakhathali nokuba ucinga ukuba bashushu (okanye bayacinga ukhona kushushu), kwaye ke kufanelekile ukuthatha umngcipheko kwaye unethemba lokungcono. Gweba ngenyameko. Ngaba badlala ngothando? Dabbling? Uthembisa nantoni na yokukhulula iimpahla zakho? Uzimisele ukuseta umlutha ofanayo kwisondo esishushu? Hayi, ukusela kwiqula elinodaka akuyi kukusondeza kwi-Synergy.
Jonga nge-intuition yakho ngalo mntu. Ngaba ukwenza uvavanyo lokholo olulungileyo kubaluleke ngakumbi kubo kuneenyanga ezimbalwa ze-orgasms? Kusenokubakho okuninzi okusemngciphekweni kunokuba nicinga nobabini. Nyanisekani kwiziqu zenu.
Ngaba bona (kunye nawe) banengqibelelo yokwenza eso sithembiso? Ngaba banesisa ngexesha nengqalelo yabo, okanye bayazingca? Ukuba ububoleke imali ungalindela ukuyifumana kwakhona? Ngaba babekekile? Ngaba unesibindi ngokwaneleyo sokuzama into entsha? Ngaba bakujonga emehlweni xa uthetha nabo? Ngaba banentobeko nengqondo evulekileyo?
Ngaphandle kokuzinikela kokwenyani, okwabelwana ngako akukho nto ibalulekileyo inokufezekiswa.
Amadoda: khetha iqabane elinamava, elithembekileyo
Ngokukodwa ukuba uyathandabuza ingcamango ye-Synergy, khetha umfazi owomeleleyo oza kuyizama naye. Uzakufuna amandla akhe kunye nokuzimisela ukuzama ukutshintsha ukusuka kwisini esiqhelekileyo. Ukuba, endaweni yoko, ukhetha iqabane elithobelayo, unokulandela isikhokelo sakho kanye eweni kwisilingo sokuqala.
Ewe kunjalo, amandla abuyela umva ngaphandle kokuba owasetyhini naye uzibophelele ngokupheleleyo kwi-Synergy ngexesha lovavanyo. Ke qiniseka ukuba uyayiqonda into azibophelela kuyo, ixesha elingakanani, kwaye ukhwele ngokupheleleyo.
Khetha umntu onokumhlonela njengokuba ubuya kwenjenjalo kudade osele ekhulile. Enyanisweni, musa ukuthandabuza ukukhetha umfazi omdala kancinci kunawe.
Bekela bucala uluhlu lwakho lweqabane elifanelekileyo. Nokuba awubafuni abantwana, olo luhlu luphenjelelwa kakhulu kukuzimisela kwebhayoloji ukukhulisa unyawo lwakho lwemfuza nangaliphi na ixabiso kuwe buqu. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, injongo yeSynergy kukuvula amandla akho okuhlangana njengabantu abadala.
Abasetyhini: Khetha iqabane elimamelayo kwaye alihloniphe igalelo lakho
Khetha iqabane elingazimiselanga kuphela ukwenza umfuniselo ngentliziyo epheleleyo ngexesha lovavanyo ekuvunyelwene ngalo, kodwa lowo - nokuba uyathandabuza - ongazibhubhisiyo izimvo zakho ngokukhabayo.
Ukuba umntu uzimisele ngokunyanisekileyo ukuzinikela kuvavanyo lwe-Synergy, ungakhathazeki malunga nokuba iqabane lakho linazo zonke iimpawu ozithandayo. Inyaniso kukuba akukho namnye kuni obona ngokucacileyo omnye okwangoku. Nobabini nifana nezityalo ezibunile ngokweqondo.
Ukuba awuguquguquki ngexesha lovavanyo lwakho, kunokwenzeka ukuba nibonane ngokwahlukileyo kwimiba yeeveki. Ukondla ngokulinganayo kuzisa okona kulungileyo kuthi: ukuyila okuphuculweyo, ukucaca, charisma, ukuba nethemba, ububele, uvuyo, amandla, ukungazingci, njalo njalo.
Gxininisa kwisimo sakho kunye nemfezeko yeqabane lakho hayi unika umdla kwezesondo. Khumbula, iinkqubo zakho zebhayoloji ukuba uzinike ibhaso izixhobo, iwonga kunye "nobushushu". Zimisele ukubekela bucala ezo zityekelo, kunye nalo naluphi na uluhlu lokukhangela iqabane elifanelekileyo, ngexesha lovavanyo oludibeneyo.
Ukusondela kumanyano ngokucothayo
Ngaba unexhala malunga nokuphazamiseka ngokwesondo okunganyamezelekiyo ngexesha letyala lakho le-Synergy? Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba utshintshiselwano lwamandla othando + luqulathe amandla esini ngokwenene kukhulula ukuphazamiseka ngokwesondo. Ngokudibeneyo, benza ulingo oluzinzileyo ngaphandle koxinzelelo.
Kuhlala kulungile ukulala ecaleni komnye nomnye nangaliphi na ixesha ngexesha lovavanyo lwakho, kodwa ukuba oko akunakwenzeka, tshintshana nje amandla kunye xa unako. Yabelanani ngokutya kunye nokuhamba kunye xa kunokwenzeka.
Kungcono ukuqala utshintshiselwano lwakho lwamandla unxibe iimpahla ezikhanyayo (kodwa ezingahexiyo). Qwalasela imisebenzi efana nokuthanjiswa kweenyawo, ukuphululwa kwentloko, ukubamba izandla ngelixa uphumle okanye ucamngca kunye, ukwenza amacephe, njalo njalo. Ngexesha lokutshintshiselana kwakho ngothando, yiva ukuphefumla kweqabane lakho. Uziva ntoni xa ulusu lwakho luchukumisa olwabo? Kuphephe ukucinga.
Vumela ixesha lidlule ngelixa uhlala nale misebenzi ethambileyo. Xa nobabini nivakalelwa kukuba amandla akho esondo azinzile, zama ukususa iingubo zakho eziphezulu ukuze ukwazi ukubandakanya ukudibanisa ngakumbi kwesikhumba. Musani ukwenza umgudu wokuvuselela inkanuko yesini yomnye. (Ukuncamisa okulambileyo kuvuselela kakhulu.) Gcina ugxininise kwicephe, ukuphathaphatha ngothando kunye nokuphulula kancinci ulusu olungenanto.
Uqaphela ntoni ngaphandle kwegumbi lokulala? Anjani amandla akho? Ngaba uya kukwazi ukwenza izinto? Umlinganiselo wakho wethemba? Ukulala kwakho? Ukudlala kwakho? Hlala nale degree entsha yokusondelana de uphinde uzive amandla akho omnye komnye uzinzile.
Ukuba ukukhungatheka kwakho ngokwesondo kuba nzima phakathi kokudibana uhamba ngokukhawuleza. NONE Xa uzinzile, zama ubunqunu ngelixa usenza imisebenzi yothando engaqhutywayo.
Ukuqhagamshelana ngokwesini
Xa unokugcina uthando oluzolileyo ngelixa unganxibanga, ungabandakanya ukuchukumisa amalungu esini ngaphandle kokwabelana ngesondo. Bona into oyiqaphelayo. Ngaba uyawava amandla ahamba phakathi kwakho? Zama oku kwizihlandlo ezimbalwa de "umbane" wakho ofanayo uzinzile.
Ke, ukuba nobabini nifuna uqhagamshelo lwangasese, unokongeza ngokukhuselekileyo ukulalana. Gcina ukhumbule ukuba ukutshintshiselana kwamandla okunondla nobabini akuxhomekeke kumalungu angasese. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo hayi ekusebenziseni intshukumo ukunyusa ukuvuselela. Ngoko, qala ngokudibanisa ngaphandle kwentshukumo. Zama oko ngezihlandlo ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba wongeze intshukumo (okuyiyo yokuzikhethela ngokupheleleyo).
Ukuba ukunqongophala kokuvuselela kuyaphazamisa amalungu akho angasese, unokufuna ukuzama ukungena okuthambileyo kunye nenye ezi zikhundla. Kwakhona, ukuba ukukhungatheka kwakho ngokwesondo kuba nzima phakathi kokudibana uhamba ngokukhawuleza. Gcina umva kwaye ulinde de amandla azinzile.
Kwinqanaba elibalulekileyo lokudibana kwamalungu obuni, qaphela ukuba ungaweli kwipatheni yebhayoloji yokumpompa ukuvuswa. Cofa iqabane lakho ukuba liyeke ukuhamba ukuba oku kuyenzeka. Hlalani kunye de nibe nokwahlukana ngaphandle kokuziva bekhathazekile. Soloko ugqiba ukudibana kwakho ngale ndlela.
Ngaba uziva uzithembe ngakumbi? Ngaba udimazekile kancinci? Ngaba ukwazi ngakumbi ukubonisa ubuchule bakho? Ngaba usebenzisana nabanye ngokulula ngakumbi? Ngaba uyabubona uburharha nobubhanxa bezinto ngakumbi kunangaphambili, nangovelwano olukhulu?
Ukucofa umthombo ongapheliyo wesondlo
Xa ixesha lakho lokulinga liphelile, hlola iziphumo zakho. Ucinga ntoni ngovavanyo lwakho? Naziphi na izibonelelo? Imiqobo?
Ngaba uziva uphelele? Iphelele? Umxholo omangalisayo? Ukuba akunjalo, i-Synergy ayisiyoyakho ngeli xesha.
Ngokufanelekileyo, i-Synergy isivumela ukuba sibambe umthombo ongapheliyo, ongapheliyo wesondlo. Itshintsha ukuqonda. Inokusinika ukuqonda okunzulu, ide isivumele ukuba sizibone iimeko zoluntu ngendlela entsha.
“Yiva umnxeba wam uze kum kuba sohlukene ngamaphupha kuphela.”
