Synergy is unfamiliar and easily mischaracterized. It’s therefore difficult to explain to a partner. It’s off the radar of most “sex positive” mainstream advice. That’s somewhat ironic because couples practising Synergy tend to engage in loving sex more frequently than they did with orgasm-driven sex. Incidentally, research has demonstrated that intercourse is especially beneficial as compared with various other sexual activities.

New lovers find Synergy challenging because of all the compelling honeymoon neurochemicals flowing through them. For the same reason, it doesn’t work well in casual hook-ups, where novelty is the prime aphrodisiac. Long-distance lovers also report difficulties. They don’t have the satisfying benefit of daily bonding behaviours, and when they reunite after a separation there’s understandably a lot of sexual hunger present that works against a relaxed approach.