One of the simplest and most effective breathing techniques for improving sexual self-control is the ancient practice sometimes called Kumbhaka (“breath retention”) from India. It’s wise to practice this technique outside the bedroom before you try it during sex.

Breath retention

• Take up to 20 deeper breaths than normal, through your nose if possible.
• Hold your breath at the top of your inhale, and hold it at the bottom of your exhale.
• 3-second holds are sufficient.
• If this is uncomfortable at first, simply breathe more deeply and slowly.

Start with just a few controlled breaths, and build up over time. This practice should feel soothing not forced. It subtly helps master desire.