Men, especially, sometimes believe that sexual activity without orgasm will impair their sleep. Yet here’s what one man who has practiced Synergy for years shared:

My body’s response to ejaculation has changed with my adoption of [Synergy]. Back when my wife and I were practicing ordinary, climactic intercourse, we typically had intercourse at night. I slept deeply, but it was as if I had had a drink or two; not really the most refreshing sleep, and I kind of felt groggy in the morning. Now that we practice [Synergy], we have intercourse typically in the afternoon, not at night. I have not paid particular attention to the effect of [Synergy] on my sleep. But, when I have an inadvertent ejaculation during [Synergy], I typically have lighter, interrupted, not-as-restful sleep. So, for me, nowadays, ejaculation clearly and typically means poorer sleep, while the converse, no ejaculation, must mean sounder sleep.

Interestingly, although they have not studied Synergy-style lovemaking and sleep directly, Dutch researchers do report that sexual activity without climax does not affect sleep.

Depending upon your habits before you experiment with Synergy, you may experience a period of adjustment. Here are some tactics that can make the shift easier:

  • Make sure your lovemaking has several periods of stillness in it, where you allow yourself to relax totally and your arousal to drop. End your lovemaking with one of these still periods.
  • If you have the option, experiment with making love during the day, so you aren’t trying to fall asleep immediately afterward.