Chinese Taoist master Lao Tzu calls it “angelic intercourse“. The author of the Gospel of Philip calls it “undefiled intercourse” or the “pure embrace.” J. William Lloyd calls it “the soul-blending embrace“. The Tibetan Buddhists call it “controlled indulgence“. Alice Bunker Stockham, MD calls it “Karezza” or “finding the kingdom of heaven in your own hearts.”
Edgar Cayce’s* source referred to it as an “exaltation that comes from association of kindred bodies.” The key concept is that wellbeing and spiritual growth result from conserving and exchanging sexual energy during intercourse (ideally between complementary mates who share an inspired common purpose). 364-6, 364-7
Note: Numerical references are to Cayce readings. Page numbers refer to the ARE publication entitled Revelation: A Commentary Based on a Study of Twenty-Four Psychic Discourses by Edgar Cayce, ARE Press, 1969.
So, did Cayce, a father of 4 and a husband, channel advice about sex without orgasm…without his conscious awareness? Consider the following material.
The Cayce readings teach us that hidden risks stem from — to use Cayce’s terminology — self-gratification of the carnal, or reproductive, impulse. p.53, 281-57 If we think of this impulse as orgasm (and its pursuit), it sheds much light on the Cayce readings about the links between sex, the endocrine system, and spiritualising desire. 457-1 See Cayce on Endocrine Regeneration for an in-depth look at the Commentary’s fascinating insights into the vital roles of the neuroendocrine system and sex in spiritual development.
Brief physiology lesson: The hidden risks from passion (the drive to orgasm) arise from an unconscious script lurking in the limbic system — a primitive part of every mammalian brain. Here our neuroendocrine system programmes us to fall in love with intense passion, form temporary attachments, reproduce…and then move on, either to the next mating season or in a serially monogamous fashion.
If you ever wondered why no animal species are sexually monogamous, wonder no longer! Changing mates improves the genetic variety of offspring, enhancing genes’ chances of survival. Even the relatively rare pair bonders like humans feel the pressure of this “Coolidge effect”, although we may choose to remain monogamous.
Relevant Cayce readings
So, do the Cayce readings point to controlled intercourse (that is, union without the pursuit of climax) as a means of cleansing the reproductive urge? We know from the readings that sexual relations can give rise to the highest vibrations that can be experienced in the material world. Yet sexual relationships are also the basis of what is termed “original sin”. 911-5 This, Cayce says, means that we easily misconstrue and misinterpret our sexual experience, just as Eve did. p.57, 281-63
For instance, could it be that we are tempted to interpret conventional orgasm as a spiritual experience due to its intensity or potential for causing pregnancy, and therefore fail to realise that it actually has the power to dim our spiritual vision and lower our sights? In fact, as we’ll see in a moment, Cayce’s source taught that we could be tapping far more exalted experiences in our intimacy than conventional orgasm permits.
Incidentally, just as his source insisted, there are physiological reasons why conventional orgasm interferes with spiritual vision. In fact, scientists are starting to call for more research on post-orgasmic malaise.
Cayce’s source offers a key to help us understand the ideal use of our sexual desire. It advises that it is control of sexual relations, rather than being controlled by them, which permits awareness of spiritual intent and purpose. 911-5 And it suggests that we should cultivate spiritual, mental and physical desire, rather than the “carnal desires that are only gratified for the moment“. 911-7
This is not a small shift. In fact, the readings acknowledge that we must completely change our physical desires and aims if we would purify sexual desire, balance the endocrine system, and awaken spiritually. “As each soul completely changes its physical desires and aims, it experiences a new vision and comprehension. Those who have put away earthly desires enter a holy place”. p.28, 281-37
More guidance
Reading 1597-1 points to the choice humans must all ultimately make to give up casual pursuit of physical gratification in favour of tapping sex’s higher purpose. (Note: “Creative Forces” refers to life force energy, including sexual energy.)
There is continuously before man, before each entity, the opportunity for choosing that in the experience which will be to the glory of the Creative Forces (call them what we will or may), to the better self, rather than to that influence which may be for the gratifying of appetites.
Desire, as will, is a portion then of the spiritual self. It is a continuous thing. Then gratifying of self, or the gratification for itself alone, may oft turn and rend they that would indulge in same without standards, ideals, or … purposefulness in the experience or activity. [Sex for self-gratification often harms us.].
[An individual may choose sexual experiences in the hope of learning] to bring into the experience and consciousness of the entity the desire to be more and more at a oneness with the Creative Forces.
Perhaps the most direct Cayce material on the question of whether intercourse without orgasm has a role to play in purification is reading 364-6. It states that in a relationship devoted to a higher purpose it is possible to retain the sexual essence, which becomes a potent force for good.
The exaltation that comes from the union of kindred bodies whose lives are consecrated in purposefulness grants the ability to retain the essence of creation in virile bodies. This retained essence becomes the fire that lights truth, love, hope, patience, peace and harmony.
…Moreover, this force is ever the key to firing the imaginations of those gifted in depicting the high emotions of human experience in any medium. 364-6
Self-control is then a natural outcome, not a strain. The more constructively we use our sexual desire, the less is our desire for “the carnal, physical reaction”. 2072-16
Parallel insights
To offer perspective, Dr. Stockham, author of a century-old book Karezza: Ethics of Marriage (1903) pp. 25-6, describes this same experience this way:
During a lengthy period of perfect control, the whole being of each is merged into the other, and an exquisite exaltation experienced. This may be accompanied by a quiet motion, entirely under subordination of the will, so that the thrill of passion for either may not go beyond a pleasurable exchange. … With abundant time and mutual reciprocity the interchange becomes satisfactory and complete without emission or crisis. In the course of an hour the physical tension subsides, the spiritual exaltation increases, and not uncommonly visions of a transcendent life are seen and consciousness of new powers experienced.
Ancient Chinese Taoist Lao Tzu describes it this way in the Hua Hu Ching : Unknown Teachings of Lao Tzu, p.88:
Angelic intercourse is led by the spirit rather than the sexual organs…. Where ordinary intercourse unites sex organs with sex organs, angelic cultivation unites spirit with spirit, mind with mind, and every cell of one body with every cell of the other body. … Culminating not in dissolution but in integration, it is an opportunity for a man and woman to [refine their fire upward and] mutually transform and uplift each other into the realm of bliss and wholeness.
Some think of this shared experience as “MELTing,” or Mutual Ecstatic Loving Transcendence. For dozens of self-reports by lovers who have experimented visit MELTlove.org.
Cayce’s source adds:
There will be doubts until a practical application is made in an individual’s experience. p.55, 281-63
You will learn the meaning through actual effects of activities on the physical being. p.19, 281-33 As you become conscious in your own experience of the movement of the influences through the body upon the various stages of awareness, there comes a determined desire for the light, for the temple of the living God is in your own body and mind. p.5, 281-28
So, what are you waiting for? Get started!
* Edgar Cayce (pronounced Kay-Cee, 1877-1945) has been called the “sleeping prophet”, the “father of holistic medicine”, and the most documented psychic of the 20th century. For more than 40 years of his adult life, Cayce gave psychic “readings” to thousands of seekers while in an unconscious state, diagnosing illnesses and revealing prophecies yet to come.
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