Viagra and the case for soft sex

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In the 1980s, drug company propaganda convinced the scientific world that nitric oxide was no longer a toxic pollutant, but rather a health-promoting substance to launch their new erection drug Viagra.

~Mark Sloan in The Ultimate Guide to Methylene Blue

Visitors to SynergyExplorers.org generally know its central principle: Non-performance driven sex offers remarkable benefits. The gifts of loving, intimate exchange do not demand firm erections nor intercourse. Certainly, however, neither detracts from sexual activity!

Non-goal oriented sexual approaches constitute good news for those who care about their health. Viagra and its close cousins entail unsuspected risks. According to Psychology Today blogger Mark Castleman, a 2012 study done at Ohio State University revealed that,

Viagra has been implicated in at least 1,824 deaths mostly from heart attacks. Cialis (approved in 2003) has been linked to 236 deaths, and Levitra (2003) to 121. In addition, the three medications appear to have caused or significantly contributed to at least 2,500 nonfatal heart attacks and other potentially serious heart problems, and more than 25,000 other potentially serious side effects, among them: mini-strokes, vision loss, and hearing loss. … [emphasis supplied]

Erection medications’ official list of side effects has been updated several times as new side effects have turned up.

What side effects?

The long list of potential side effects associated with nitric oxide-promoting drugs like Viagra [Cialis and Levitra] include heart attack, stroke, cardiovascular disease, multiple sclerosis, Alzheimer’s Disease, dementia, cancer, and ironically, IMPOTENCE and penile gangrene….

~Mark Sloan in The Ultimate Guide to Methylene Blue

The Ohio State researchers mentioned earlier used the Freedom of Information Act. They obtained all of the United States Food & Drug Administration’s adverse-event reports for erection medications. In ten years, 26,451 reports turned up. That’s 220 reports a month, with a steady trickle of serious cardiovascular events and deaths.

Doctors and other concerned caregivers/relatives submitted them all voluntarily. This means they found the circumstances unexpected, or disturbing enough to take action. This suggests that many more incidents occurred in which no one suspected a possible link between side effects and drug use.

The wisdom of soft sex

Would use of these risky drugs drop if the public knew the facts about Viagra’s risks? Might lovers enthusiastically experiment with less performance-driven sexual activity such as Synergy?

Sexual health therapists themselves endorse the idea that optimal sexual pleasure does not rest on performance. Consider the following excerpts from an article in The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality entitled, “The components of optimal sexuality: A portrait of “great sex”.

“Great sex” had very little to do with proper physiological functioning (e.g., hard erections, vaginal lubrication, intercourse, orgasm). …

The actual sexual behaviours and acts performed are far less important than the mind set and intent of the person or couple engaged in these acts. …

As sex therapists, we often help clients to overcome sexual dysfunction. Yet we note that their enjoyment of sexual relations and more strikingly, their sexual frequency remain underwhelming. We may be tempted to explain what may then appear to be desire disorders or at least desire discrepancies as symptomatic of deeper, perhaps relational or systemic sexual problems.

Here is another possibility: Maybe nothing is wrong. Maybe nothing ever was wrong but nothing was quite right, either. Perhaps clients know intuitively that they were seeking something more fulfilling, exciting and meaningful than predictable and reliable genital responses could have provided all along.

Synergy puts the emphasis on regular affection and sensual, non-goal oriented sexual activity

Might learning to mine its riches keep you or your loved one from putting a life at risk via sexual performance drugs?